Same thing every night

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Just after some advice if possible

FTM. Baby is 4 weeks old.
Baby is a dream all day and when finally asleep she sleeps for a while during the night. However, getting to sleep in the evenings is a bit of a struggle since day 1.

We bath,feed and settle baby down by 7.30pm. She then cries and cries until she's worn herself out and we don't know why. It's a proper hysterical cry rather then just a few tears. This can go on for around 1 to 2 hours. She has music on to help but unknown what else we can do.

( up until the last couple nights we let her cry herself to sleep but have been advised to not do this now)

She goes to bed full and with a clean nappy.

Any suggestions? Thanks

Babies of this age simply don't understand about bedtimes. Read up on the 'fourth trimester' and please don't leave her to cry.

Possibly colic around this time. Both of mine had it, for a good few weeks. Nothing would console them, it would just happen every night at the same time like clockwork until they snapped out of it.

She just wants to be close to you. I'm guessing that she's bottle fed? I don't have experience there as I breastfed mine, so would be cluster feeding for a few hours in the evening. My friend who bottle fed described this as witching hour, and just put her baby in a sling and walked with her til she fell asleep as she'd definitely had enough milk, so just needed cuddles and closeness until she was settled enough to sleep.

This is going to sound like the sort of comment that usually annoys me and I do mean this kindly but, why are you putting your 4 week old baby down for the night? Has someone told you this is the right thing to do? Unfortunately it doesn't work like that at such an early age. Im guessing you're both staying in the room with her? Letting her cry herself to sleep at 4 weeks is really not ok (to put it mildly). She has only ever known your warm, safe body and may be scared in her cot. For the first few months you need to work around her, as others have said, it may be colic which will pass around 12 weeks.

oh gosh at 4 weeks old, you really can't expect to put them to bed at 730, it just doesn't work like that at all. They're still so so so young at that age, I think your expectations are totally off.
Just keep the baby downstairs with you, for the evening, cuddle them, let them nap on you, use a sling etc, they just want to be close up you. It's far too early for a routine when you expect them to sleep.
Please don't let them cry and please read about the 4th trimester.

She wants to fall asleep in your arms. She doesn't need to be put down at 7:30; you can just cuddle her on the couch for the evening, and bring her to bed when you're going. Tiny babies need to be held.

crosspost, but I totally agree with this !

What you're trying to do is not realistic in anyway.

It's difficult but please stop trying to force your baby into this routine so early

Like others have said, 7.30 is still too early at her age. Probably a more realistic bedtime is 10/11 pm. Just spend the rest of the time hanging out with her on you and enjoying the snuggling. Plus a bath every night is really not necessary, probably not great for the skin either. There’s no manual is there, this parenting lark, it’s exhausting. Just follow her lead a bit, she’ll show you what she needs. In a couple months time you can start to structure the day for her a bit more.