9 month old sleep- talk to me

[mumtoboys12]

Does your 9 month old wake in the night at the moment? And wake up super early?
And fight naps and fight bedtime?
Doing EVERYTHING to ensure best practice for good sleep ie- full feeds in the day, 3 meals, 2x 1.5 hour naps a day. not napping past 4pm and bed at 7, routine, lots of fresh air, lots of crawling and exploring, interaction in groups friends fun soft play, there is absolutely no reason for it.
Or is there? Am I alone? 😣

You're not alone!! I made a similar thread a few days ago (F**king sleep..)

I feel you! DS2 is 9 months and recently sleep completely went haywire. We're 2.5 weeks into what I would say was the 9 month regression and whilst things are better than they were 2.5 weeks ago (I'm talking hourly wake ups 😩), things still aren't brilliant.

@mumtoboys12 what's your routine looking like at the minute?

@FebMama so glad I'm not alone!!
Routine is something like this

0600 wake up- bottle and back to sleep till 0730 if we are lucky. Some mornings won't settle again so downstairs
Breakfast 0830
Bottle then nap 0930-11am
Lunch 1pm
Bottle then Nap 2pm-4/430
Bath bottle bed starts at 6 with DS1 aged 3. And finishes at 7
Fight bedtime till 9pm
Possibly a dream feed 10pm if he hasn't taken much of his bedtime bottle
Possibly a bottle wake up at 1am much to my dismay
Awake till 4am babbling
Wakes at 6am

Repeat
I'm fucked.

What about you?? Am I doing anything wrong do you think?

Sleep isn’t linear. It’s tough but I find it easier to see all of it as a phase. The good nights sleep phases and the bad! Hope you get some sleep soon.

@BFmumttc but when a phase doesn't end it begins to becoming concerning ! Xx

@mumtoboys12 you must be knackered! I absolutely don't think you're doing anything "wrong". There's no right or wrong! Every baby is different and what works for some might not work for others. I'll share my rough routine with you, as we do occasionally get 7pm-6.45am and we had weeks of this prior to this regression starting. We're starting to get almost 12 hours again now but it's not as consistent. All I'm doing is trying to remain consistent with my routine in the hope that he will adapt back to what he was doing!!!

6.45am/7am - awake, 6oz bottle of milk
8am - breakfast
9.15-10am - nap
10.30am - snack
11.45/12pm - lunch
1pm - 2/2.30pm - nap (would ideally want him to have 2 hours until 3 but that's not happening)
2.45ish - 4oz bottle of milk
4.45/5pm - dinner
6pm - bath
6.30/6.45pm - 8oz bottle of milk
7/7.15pm - bedtime

The last few nights he has woken at 4/5am and I've ended up bringing him in the bed with me. Although there's been times he sleeps in his cot until 7am which is BLISS!

I wonder if I'm doing anything wrong with my little ones routine now or if I should be adjusting it somehow.

@FebMama oooh I forgot dinner! He also has that lol!
I think maybe I need to bring all naps forward so he isn't sleeping as late as 4pm perhaps!? Your routine sounds great. Well done mumma xxx

Not alone, it’s absolutely shit!! currently awake for an hour with a baby who is trying to get back to sleep but can’t seem to get into a deep sleep so gets mad and screams. I read online it’s a regression as he’s never done this before and I don’t think teething etc so I have no other explanation

sat night I was up 11-3am because everytIme I put him down he woke after spending ages getting him to sleep. Never done this before

never slept through but I used to get 8-4 feed then awake 7. Hope it passes asap for us all!

My 9 month has never slept through the night!
I try not to worry about it. Especially all the “set rules” - they don’t have to be in bed by 7pm. They don’t have to sleep through. They don’t have to not nap after 4:30pm.
Don’t get me wrong - I have a routine but I try not to get stressed if things don’t go to plan (I know this is easier said then done!!)
This week has been alright but only 2 weeks ago I was downstairs with her in a sling from 2am - 4am just to help her sleep. It’s exhausting.
Is your baby generally happy? If so they are probably getting the sleep they need.

@Brightandbreezey very very happy baby!!!! Thankyou so much. That makes me feel better. Xxx

Napping until 4.30pm and bed at 7 is never going to happen. You’d normally have around 4 hours between last nap and bedtime at that age, not 2.5, so I think either accept a later bed and stop driving yourself mad trying to put him to bed earlier, or tweak the whole day to have him ready for bed at 7 so wake him at 7am, aim for the first nap at 9-10am, the second nap 1-3pm and then bed at 7.

@mumtoboys12 really glad to help ease your mind.
I have come to learn that the baby sleep industry is set up to make parents think they are doing things wrong so that we spend a fortune “fixing” something that is completely normal and natural.
Babies wake up in the night (just like all human beings) and babies have different sleep needs (just like everyone else).
You know your baby best so do what feels right for you both.
If they are happy and healthy you are already doing a great job 🙌🏼

@mumtoboys12 yes I would agree! Try and stretch out that last wake window a bit.
Although not sure my advice is too great tbh, we had a shitshow of a night last night 😭😭 woke up bloody feeling hungover this morning minus the alcohol.

I wonder what tonight will bring 🤷🏽‍♀️

@InTheRainOnATrain Thankyou! The thing is, by the time 6pm hits he is screeching to go to bed.

@FebMama every day is a hangover with zero booze at the moment. 02:00 and he's up. See you at 6am- I'll still be here x

Currently up with my 9
Month old
To fighting naps and waking regularly there's definitely something in the air 😂 if I don't laugh I'll cry

Hello, sorry you're sleep deprived: it's seriously rough, isn't it.

Is your baby in his/her own room? I find that if I sleep in our baby's room (which sometimes I do if she has been sick or something), she definitely wakes more. I think if they wake and see you, they want to hang out! On their own they get bored and just drift back to sleep.

Your routine seems great. Annoyingly I think kids just respond differently.

@mumtoboys12 how did the rest of your night go?

My LO slept 7.30pm - 9.30pm. Refused to go back to sleep until 11pm. Woke up again 1am to which I then just brought him into the bed with me. On and off sleep and eventually up at 6.45am for the day. 😴

@Islandermummy yeah is in his own room! Blackout blinds, white noise machine etc. x

Ah I'm all out of ideas then. I vaguely followed the Charmian Meade book but it sounds pile you're already doing everything she suggests. Sorry and I hope it passes soon x

Our baby has just turned 9 months and has never slept through.

2 naps during the days and 3 proper meals.

they’ve never slept for longer than 3/4 hours in their life.

usually 8-10, 10-12, 1-3 and then we’ve got to bring them in with us as they don’t go back down in their cot.

Tried the cry it out method and it was awful fir us all.

I type this at 9:07pm and they’ve woke up crying 3 times already since half 7😞

permanently tired.

slightly reassuring ti read this thread though!

Always awake before 6am too 😞