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When and how to put baby down

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Tiddybiddy247 · 04/11/2023 20:28

Hello I have an 11 week old baby who cries like he's being murdered if I dare to try and put him down to nap during the day. He gets very uncomfortable now in my arms but refuses to be put down. Now I indulged all the advice that you can't spoil a new born or teach them bad habits. I heard all about the fourth trimester and enjoying sitting on the sofa day after day etc
So I just shut up and learned to live with it. But I'm coming up on 12 weeks and now he screams if he's laid in his pram or in the car seat.

He literally cries until he's sick if I don't pick him up. No matter how I sing to him. Pat him. Swaddle him. And before anyone says sling/Carrier he hates it. Well the fabric one and the carrier he will tolerate from my husband but not me.

So I keep hoping this magic moment will happen where he gets a bit bigger and one day just magically is happy to fall asleep without help or just happy to be put down ...

Anyone else experienced this? Can anyone give me hope?

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RandomMess · 04/11/2023 20:35

I did pick up put down.

First squawk and I picked up and cuddled until calm then put back down. It was tedious to go through but it worked.

In my mind it was my baby learning that if they needed me and cried for me I would be there in a shot.

TeddyBeans · 04/11/2023 20:38

Have you had him checked for silent reflux?

QuestionableMouse · 04/11/2023 20:39

Do you put him down bum first?

TheBeesKnee · 04/11/2023 20:40

Do you put him down awake? I couldn't do that. We contact napped and I would sometimes move him. With time I started feeding him to sleep on my bed and sneaking off leaving to nap there.

bakewellbride · 04/11/2023 20:41

My son napped in my arms until he was 10 months old

DuploTrain · 04/11/2023 20:43

I had to let DS sleep on me in the day until 6 months, when we did sleep training.

I think it would be quite unusual for a 3 month old baby to be able to fall asleep by themselves in a cot (especially in the day - it’s harder to fall asleep for naps than nighttime).

SouthLondonMum22 · 04/11/2023 20:49

Pick up put down worked well for us. It helped him learn how to self settle so I could put him down awake and then he wouldn't get a shock waking up somewhere completely different to where he fell to sleep.

We started it quite young and by the time I went back to work at 3 months, I was able to just pop him in his cot and he'd turn his head and go to sleep.

bravotango · 04/11/2023 20:54

Rolled up cellular blanket down one side and put him down bum first slightly tilted onto his side. Could be reflux which would hurt when lying on his back. Don't leave him unattended like that though if he can't roll yet. Worked for us 👍

OptimusPrime31 · 04/11/2023 21:02

My Dd slept in the bassinet in her pram for the first few months. But even that was an achievement- I don't really remember it all now but most the time we just put her in when she was completely milk drunk and rocked her. Then very,very slowly she did longer stints.

Good luck! You sound like an amazing, caring parent. It does get better!

scaredofff · 04/11/2023 21:12

Are you sure he doesn't have silent reflux?

theduchessofspork · 04/11/2023 21:13

DuploTrain · 04/11/2023 20:43

I had to let DS sleep on me in the day until 6 months, when we did sleep training.

I think it would be quite unusual for a 3 month old baby to be able to fall asleep by themselves in a cot (especially in the day - it’s harder to fall asleep for naps than nighttime).

It’s not unusual at all I don’t think. Mine did and lots of friends did.

theduchessofspork · 04/11/2023 21:14

.. but anyway OP pick up put down is the first thing I’d try. It does need intervention.

Tigger1895 · 04/11/2023 21:25

Start on the couch. When he’s asleep, move before putting him down so he sleeps on the hot spot your arse has warmed. Then if he mooches, pat him on the back. In the cot, heat it with a hot water bottle before putting down.
if it’s colic, you are nearly out of it.

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Tiddybiddy247 · 05/11/2023 01:21

So haven't had him checked for silent reflux the GP is very quick to shrug me off about everything! Always saying this is normal baby phases you just need to deal with and it'll get better as he gets older. Hence it took me 9 weeks to get his tongue tie sorted.

Half the time it's the jumping reflex thingy that wakes him. Then it's his farts!

I'll keep trying

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Sweetestp · 05/11/2023 05:36

Yeah the gas is the worst.
Everyone said it would pass at 12 weeks but DS still was woken by his gas well into his fourth month. I know people say the wonderweek Leaps aren’t legit, but i found that my DS sleep was worse when he was in a leap and it was harder to put him down. Keep trying, it gets easier!

RandomMess · 05/11/2023 13:29

Babies should lose their Moro reflex around 6 weeks so he's definitely not "happy". Even after tongue tie is snipped it can take a while for them to get the hang of feeding.

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