9 month old waking after I've gone up to bed

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Hi
I have a 9 month old little girl who I exclusively breastfed til 7 months then transitioned her to exclusive formula feeds. She's still in our room in her cot right beside my bed. I notice now for the past month that she wakes every couple of hours after I go up to bed. She goes to bed at 7 and I go up at 12 or 11 but after that she'll literally just wake all through the night until I'm so exhausted I bring her to bed with me at 4.30 am every morning since this all started.

I can't figure out why she's waking. She naps well currently between 2 to 3 naps sleeping 2 hours in total. She wakes between 6.30 am to 7 am to start her day.

Anyone else experienced this? Can anyone shed some light as to why she wakes? I'm so exhausted due to lack of deep sleep that I literally feel like a zombie right now. I go back to work soon and it's worrying me cos it's lasted a good month.

I don't really want to tell you this, but DS didn't sleep through the night until he was almost three. A 9 month old waking really isn't unusual. It could be noises waking her, you going to bed, snoring etc so she might be ready for her own room, but you could move her and she's the same

I had this and it was food intolerance. (wheat)

My son woke every two hours for four years unfortunately. Neither of us really enjoyed it.

It’s not unusual for a 9 month old to wake like this. Mine didn’t sleep through until 2 years old and 5 years old (sorry). Is she hungry? Are you giving feeds when she wakes? Could she be cold? It may just be developmental and nothing you can do but worth trying the feed / warmth angle. Could you just bring her into your bed on her first wake up and see if she sleeps better then as she’s next to you and will feel secure, if that’s the issue.

Yep, my child did that. Every 2 hrs until he was three. Never found an answer. We ended up cosleeping (safely, mattresses on floor etc) so I could get a bit less disturbed each waking. Did I return to work at end of matl as planned? No I did not.

Sorry OP 🙈 I wish you better luck!

Thanks all.
Sorry to hear that you've not had a decent night for a while. I hope it gets easier for those still in the thick of it.

I wondered if it was cos she could smell me because she doesn't wake up before I go up and only woke twice a night when she was breastfed after i put her in her cot.

I did think maybe she's ready for her own room as well as suggested by undercovercop so tested it last night. I slept in what will be her room and she didn't wake until 4.30am. But that's just one night so I'll give it a try for a week and see what happens. I don't think i could survive having her in a different room if it's to carry on. But if it works then her own space it is. She seemed happier in herself today as well...maybe she slept better without me there?!

You might see a difference if you put her in her own room x

@Cowlover89 yeah i will. I'll phase her in to her own space after this trial. I remember doing the same with eldest and he didn't seemed fazed but let's see. They're so different

We had this too, waking every 2 hours at 9 months, and found that cutting night feeds (cold turkey!) was the key, so just rocking back to sleep each time instead of feeding. It took a couple of nights but they soon realised there was little point waking up and by night 3 they slept through the night!! we also found putting our LO in their own room really helped both them and us, it made me less on-edge as I couldn’t hear every mumble or shuffling.

You tend to find they have one long stint of sleep often when they first go down to about midnight, and then have broken sleep for the rest of the night.

If you are exhausted try sleeping the same pattern as her for a few nights to recoup some sleep

Hi thanks all. Just reporting back. So I've been sleeping away from my little girl for over a week now and it seems to have helped her sleep better. She hasn't woken up in the middle of the night for past 4 nights. Sounds positive so far I know but now she's waking up at 5 am every day and the only way to get her back to sleep is if I bring her into bed with me and then she'll sleep until 6 or 6.30 am.
I will put her in her own room soon and see how that goes but how to solve the 5 am rise?
I go back to work soon so desperately trying to sort her sleep. My eldest was a colicky baby and I experienced terrible purple crying then suddenly it stopped and he slept like a dream. I've not experienced the gradual transition from waking in the nights to solid 11/12 hour stretch of sleep.