Hello 😊
Just looking for a bit of advice really…
We started putting DS (very nearly 22m) down awake and staying with him until he fell asleep about a month and a half ago as rocking to sleep just wasn’t working anymore and he actually started sleeping through and not even minding being put in his cot! Forward to about a week ago and he’s started waking up every night again and it’s taking between 1-2 hours to get him back to sleep - it’s brutal when you’ve just got used to sleeping again!
He has always been quite clingy with me, but will have the odd day where it’s like I don’t exist (still working on not letting that feel like the end of the world 😂) and at the moment, he likes me, him and DH to all do everything together (which is lovely). At bedtime though he has started wailing for me when it’s DH’s turn to take him to bed and if DH comes to take over in the night, again, DS goes mental when I say night night and leave the room.
My two questions are:-
- When he cries in the night, should I pick him up?! I did start doing that as that’s what I’ve always done before but he then just gets angry when I put him back down to go to sleep so thought it might be confusing him if I pick him up once and then don’t again.
- If he is crying for me, is it horrible for me to swap with DH in the night and should I just do bedtime as well? I mean he loves DH so much but I don’t want him to feel like he’s shouting for me and I leave/don’t come.
Probably looking into this too much but I like to worry about everything nowadays 🙃x