Anyone about to try controlled crying?

[Hayls]

My dd is nearly 11 months and has never been a good sleeper, has slept through once at 7 months. Lately she's had a heavy cold and chest infection and her sleeping got really bad with us co-sleeping for a while to get through it. She's now better (but dh and I have it)and we are at breaking point. She goes out like a dream at 7pm but then wakes up frequently and is hard to settle, normally ending up with me bfing her just so we can all get to sleep. This can happen 3 or 4 times a night-last night I came home at 11pm after a night out to find she'd been awake since 10pm and she didn't go back until 1.15, then woke again at 2.30, then 5 then 7.45. If co-sleeping worked we'd be uite happy to do it but even that has stopped working now and we're truly desperate. HAving read most of the sleep books with little success we've decided tha we have to try cc now.

Basically, after all that rambling we're following Ferber from tonight and I was wondering if there was anybody else out there who was about to embark on it at the same time for a bit of support?!

I felt really strongly about cc before but I honestly don't feel as though we have any other option niw...I've been crying tears of exhaustion all day

Oh Hayls poor you. I'm not in the position of about to try cc, but have done it with both my dd's and have to say it worked a treat. The first couple of nights are hard, but it's worth it in the long run. Both mine are really good now (except for when they are sick of course) and sleep through every night. It took about 3 nights with dd1 and about a week for dd2 (she's much more stubborn!) The most important thing is that you and dh stick together on it and be consistent. All the best, I hope it works for you. You sound like you really need a good nights sleep!

hayls, good luck. I may be you in a couple of months time but for now still holding on to vain hope that DD at 7 months will grow into sleep. Will be hoping to find out how you get on, hope you find a co- cc'er.

Thanks, could do with some friendly words! xx

Hi im due to start it over xmas as well be off work. Ill be up for moral suport then. I hope it isnt going too bad for you.

Good Luck

Hi im due to start it over xmas as well be off work. Ill be up for moral suport then. I hope it isnt going too bad for you.

Good Luck

I have done PU/PD and CC with both of mine, and it's worked. Yes it's hard. You HAVE to be strong, and follow your routine consistently. Give in just once and you have to start all over.

Advice on this has been given before, so go check other threads for other sources of inspiration and encouragement, but...

Remember. It's CONTROLLED cying. You won't leave them for long, and they can do themselves no harm by crying. It's just the ONLY way they have of trying to get your attention.

DON'T listen to the crying. Switch off the baby monitor, or go downstairs, or put on headphones and listen to music, or stick a coat on and stand outside. It's easier to get through the crying minutes if you don't hear it full blast.

Try NOT to get cross and stressed with one another (you and DH). It's hard but try and be supportive of one another during those long minutes.

Remember that WHEN you crack it (and you will) YOU will be better rested and DD will be better rested and you will ALL get on much better as a result

And finally. Good luck and tell us how you're getting along.