When could you put baby down?

[Tiddybiddy247]

Hello 👋 got a 7 week old baby who is pretty miserable most of the time due to wind. He breastfeeds for hours and hours all day and sleeps most of the time. He can't sleep without a boob. And screams and scream until he chokes if you try to just rock him or shhh and pat.

He'll sleep on us for more than an hour. After 20/30 mins of holding him we try and put him in his basket or sometimes as he'd falling asleep. He wakes up every time within moments. We tried swaddle.

My back is killing me 😫 I can't even do anything during the day. Which is kind of depressing.

Anyone else with a similar situation who's Baby grew out of it? People tell me he will. Other people say I'm doomed and he's spoil

Sounds like a colic baby 🫠 it's really tough..... ours only stopped at about 6 months, hopefully yours won't last that long. Have you been in touch with HV for some advice Xx

How does he do at night? Mine would only sleep on me during the day. He would breastfeed a lot and sleep that way. He also slept well in the pram and car, so at least I could get out and about. At around 4 or 5 months he started to be able to be put in his cot for some naps, starting with just 30 mins and then it gradually got longer. It's so hard when you're in it but it's not forever, right now they just want your comfort and warmth. Perhaps try a carrier or sling so that you can be up and moving around? You cannot spoil a baby with too much comfort. They need this to feel safe which is the basis for later independence.

In the day I had to hold my DS for naps until about 6 months (sorry).

We were able to put him down at night time though. He still woke up loads, but would sleep for a couple of hours in his crib at a time.

Do you use a dummy? That helped us a little.

You have my sympathies though.. I found it a really tough time. Colicky babies are really difficult.

You can’t spoil a baby that young or make a rod for your own back… you do whatever you need to do to survive. People that go on about how their baby slept so well because they had a great routine and great habits from a few weeks old had easy babies who would have slept well regardless.

Try putting him down after just 5 minutes sleep. 20 mins is too long a time and would wake some kids

I ended up loving the contact naps during the day and got my OH to do the household stuff whilst my job was to care for the baby. At night after 20 minutes we used to put him in his cot... he never really liked the Moses basket. You'll find that most babies will sleep better eventually at night so you might want to try then? Babies are changing all the time so don't worry if it doesn't work.

Have you got a sling/carrier? They are super comfortable and I use mine a lot. I went to my local sling library and rented one. The one I had bought is a well known brand but sadly not comfortable at all!

Good luck, it does get better with time :)

It completely depends on the baby I think but yours sounds like my second baby (now 8m) when I was breastfeeding her I would spend hours in a cycle of feeding her, her falling into a deep sleep and me laying her down so I could get ready and her waking up, overtired 10 mins later. Sometimes this would last all day 🙈. It's hard, you have my sympathy. For this baby it only really changed when we switched to formula at 6m and was able to start 2 long naps in a cot. Just our experience though, yours might settle quicker! X

Sorry should have mentioned I EBF (still am but that's another story!) and I had a Velcro baby too! Our reflux was horrendous hence why I said it does get better ❤️‍🩹 we had to sit him up for 20 minutes as well. Looking back there are lots of things I'd change but you muddle through it all

@Tiddybiddy247 I could have written this myself! Would be amazing knowing how you did as this was a while ago? :)

DS contact napped in the sling until 12 weeks. but would be put down at night. it was less stressful for me mentally to just contact nap him in the sling rather than stressing about him waking up when put down, and it meant I could get on with my day around the house. yes I stood up most of the time with him in the sling and it made my feet and back ache at times but was worth it for him to get good naps. started independant cot sleeping at 12 weeks and a very gradual process and always had to resettle him after 30 mins for naps. but since 5.5 months he naps independently for more than 30 mins and we often have to wake him, he's 13 months now.

I never could put him down without him crying or waking up. Ended up co-sleeping through every nap and night time. He's 16 months now and still can't sleep without a boob. He will sleep in the pram if we are out and about but I have to keep moving. At home he will cry and pull at me when he's tired 😴 😩 for a boob and we lie together while he falls asleep. Sometimes I can roll away and get 30 mins break. At night he wakes up every hour sometimes a bit longer, he's done a 3 hour stretch once but the longest stretch is two hours before waking. I asked for help from health visitors, GP, other mums, sleep consultants...no one could help, and so I carry on. Hoping one day things will change...or I'll feel able to 'sleep train ' /wean

I would say on a positive note he only naps once or twice a day so we can do much more than the early days and I kinda miss being able to sit and watch TV lol he's so much fun and getting better every day. It's so hard not to compare your situation with others. Partly I'm still trying to adjust my expectations about how much I can do and still getting to grips with my life as a mother to a small infant/toddler. This is it for me, I gotta buckle up and enjoy the ride. It'll change and it will get better