Bedsharers with 2 kids, how do you escape on a night safely??

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For anyone who bedshares with 2, how do you get any time at night?? I have a 3yo and a 7mo and my baby girl is transitioning from 3 to 2 naps in the day and tends to be ready to sleep for the night at the same time as my 3yo now (she used to have her 3rd nap late ish so would be ready for bed between 8-9 and I would go to bed then too, now it’s around 7/7.30) so now when both fall asleep in our shared floor bed, how can I leave safely? Like can I at all? I like to go get a drink and watch something or spend time with my husband too but now I feel like I can’t really leave them together alone incase of rolling or potential kicks to the face for my baby from my fidgety 3yo 👀 if I move baby she wakes up very cranky and just wants to go back to sleep. Not really sure what to do so thank you for any advice! 🙏🏼

Just to add, we are happy with this sleep set up, I like sleeping with them both, we all sleep well this way and DH is in what would be our room (but is mainly known as daddy’s room right now) because he gets up early for work and doesn’t have boobs for feeding 😅 not looking to change this, mainly how to be able to leave them together safely, if there even is a way! TIA!

I don’t bed share (though my nearly 3 year old does sometimes appear in my bed during the night) but I do have two that need cuddling to sleep at the same time.

We work it by taking a child each at bedtime. The baby gets a feed whilst my oldest has a cup of milk, then we alternate which child we take to bed.

Could your DH get the baby to sleep in his bed or downstairs then bring them through once you’re out of bed?

Sorry, just realised that you can’t move the baby or leave them alone together… I don’t think you can get back up without changing your set up 🤷‍♀️

Thanks for your reply! My DH can get 3yo to sleep and I can feed baby down on the sofa and grab a drink/watch something and then head up after, she’s still small enough for me to get away with that! But some days he does a later shift and isn’t home for bed time and some nights (recently 3yo hasn’t been well) only I’ve been wanted and needed to eventually have them both no matter how hard DH tries. So it’s not every night but some nights I’m just stuck from like 7pm 😅