6 week old and confused

[Tiddybiddy247]

Looking for hope and advice. First week of life in the hospital slept most of the time in the little clear cot they provide. One night on my chest.
Second and third week at home swaddle in his next to me cot. Then suddenly week 4 will only sleep on me. Husband now relegated to the spare room. Tried putting baby down after feeds (BF) and he startling awake after a few minutes. Then the wind Started, he got painful wind and can't sleep on his back. So he started sleeping face down on me. Week 5 reflux made this hard. I never slept either. Week 6 we are trying to sleep, feed to sleep lying down. At the advice of all the professionals (GP, HV and midwives)

Trouble is the little blighter moves all the time! Constantly wriggling so much, burrowing into my boobs. Grunting and flapping, wiggling, until I'm on the edge of the flipping bed!

I can't sleep well because I'm constantly adjusting his position 😞

Need to think about trying to get him back in his own space! For my sanity. Read many posts about how people's babies never sleep 😳 mine sleeps through until around 7am/8. Wakes for boob 4 times at night but not really awake, eyes closed.

Read about the 4 months sleep progression... health professional say that you can't spoil a baby etc family are saying I should formula feed for better sleep and swaddle him/let him cry it out etc

If he's wriggling and burrowing maybe he's still hungry? Always use feeding as the first port of call at this age. It's incredibly hard-but it does get better, I promise. How's his weight going? It always helped me to think of them as instinctive little animals- like kittens!

He's gaining weight good. Despite our struggles with BF he has a mild tongue tie. But gas makes breastfeeding hard. He tenses up in a little ball and his arms lock in like a rotisserie chicken! We struggle to get a good latch from 5an till he relaxes/passes gas or is sick. Usually around 6.30/7. He gets frantic pulling, punching, latching and unlatching. I try and re-latch him and he cries. First half of the night he's ok. I dread 4am...

But yes I'm not getting any sleep 😪 only from 8pm till 12am when DH takes him and give him 60ml of formula 😭

Sorry should have said I offer him boob when he burrows but he just pulls his head back and wriggle away and sleep on...

I've 3 babies all completely different sleepers. They were all exclusively bf, no formula at all past their lips (just for context for what I'm about to say). I had one who never slept more than 2hours in a stretch, had to fall asleep on me, was very hard to put down, always cried and needed that constant touch to stay asleep. Was a nightmare, they only started sleeping through the night when they started school, they wanted bf constantly as a baby, cluster fed an for 3hours straight and also in the evening 6-9pm. Still woke at 10.30pm for another bf. I had one baby who slept through, 9-6am, at 7weeks old and by 9 weeks old was sleeping 7-7am, was also very happy to be put down awake after their bf and fell asleep on their own, when they did cry they only wanted a little 2min cuddle to know I was there and they got put back in the cot and fell asleep on their own, bf's though the day were regular 4-6hours, (this was from birth). My final child is in the middle of these. Needed to have comfort to get to sleep, and for their first 3weeks slept on my chest in a slight upright position otherwise they screamed. Was awake every 3-4ish hours though the night for food and snuggles. My third though was sleeping though the night by 6months old, 7-7pm. They now, 19months, will go to bed on their own awake and fall asleep. What I did (for my first and third), is put a small folded towel under the mattress of their cot so baby slept at a slight angle and that helped them sleep with the reflux. I also avoided spicy and garlic foods. That allowed me to put them in the cot and have a couple hours sleep before they woke again. Babies are all completely different and what works for one will not necessarily work for another. Please don't get disheartened if something isn't working. It may just click and you get your couple hours of sleep. I've had friends who formula fed and had babies who slept like my first and third. Feed how you want to feed, their sleep is about them, their personality and what they need from you. You can not spoil a baby and they don't want these cuddles forever.