Were you scared to put toddler in a big bed and at what age did you do it?

[AutumnLea]

Have spent today putting up a new bed in DS 21mo room as he's been trying to climb out of his cot. Now that it's done I'm really worried about letting him 'loose' in there in his own bed 😩

Obviously I've child proofed, there's window restrictors, a stair gate across his door and it's a double bed so should be less easy to fall out of. There's a baby monitor so I should hear if he gets up and starts mooching around. I just can't help but think the cot is still safer and I've half a mind to put it back in.

Don't remember feeling like this with DD although I can't remember how old she was. Is it too soon? He likes the bed although he tries to walk all over it and has already fallen off once today. It's pretty low and on carpet so if he does fall it won't be catastrophic.

The only other thing I can think he might do is pull the curtains down. Not much I can do about that though I'll just have to remove them completely if he does.

Maybe I should sleep in there with him tonight. Or just wait.

Hope I'm in the right topic for this.

Thanks

No advice but following with interest! DS just turned 2 and I was going to leave him in his cot for as long as possible but I'm wondering if he'd benefit from moving to a bed now.

I got a bed guard and put a duvet on the floor. And it was fine. DSs have been known to fall out of bed but not as toddlers (10 and 7 now and both sleep talk and sleep like overactive octopuses!).

Dd went into a bed at 15 months because she could climb out the cot. She would literally hpld the bars, brace her feet on them and walk up. She would flip over the top and fall to the floor. It was infinitely safer fir her to be in a bed .

Ultimately it doesn't matter what any of us did/would do. All that matters is what you feel is right. Go with your gut.

No I wasn't scared just ready for the fun and games that inevitably happened for the first nights , weeks (?) afterwards . It was a long time ago now , faded memories .

My child never climbed out the cot, and I took the bars off to convert it into a little bed when he turned three years. I was not scared, just happy to be moving on to a new stage.

Yes, I was! Definitely with my first born. Imagined she'd never go to bed or would fall out ans injure herself etc etc. She had a small, child's single bed to begin with and then an adult sized bed from about 3 and a half.

(She was absolutely fine BTW and didn't fall out of bed or run around at night or run herself a bath or any of the other nightmare scenarios I'd dreamt up)!

It never even occurred to me to worry about this. Daughter was 2yrs 1month and we needed the cot for the new baby. She went into a single bed pushed up against the wall and a long bed guard on the open side, spare pillows on the floor below the bed guard. She never fell out.

Mine had to go into a bed with a rail by 12 months as they just climbed over by then and I'd rather they walked round their room then fell and smashed their heads open from clambering over the edge of a cot.

Overactive octopus that's exactly him 😁

Well he slept in it perfectly well...until I went to bed, chickened out and transferred him to the cot! Probably phase it in over the next few days for my own sanity.

Whatever age my child was the first night they climbed over the cot and stood at the top of the stairs, parents being scared does not stop them doing what they want

18 months as I was pregnant but couldn't lift. No problem whatsoever.

And couldn't lift.

About 3 weeks ago! Almost 3yo, never climbed out the cot and needed for it #2.

I was worried.... because of our stairs and sort of mezzanine stairs in case little one went wandering at night. We've never having used stairgates but the main/majority of stairs are very steep and right opposite the bathroom.

Hasn't been a problem though and a nightlight has eased my worries.

My older one slept in the cot (very well) until 3 and a half (big toddler bed/cot so huge). I was lucky though. DC1 never tried to climb out (wore sleeping-bags) until they were old enough and big enough to manage it safely (by which time they had a pillow and duvet. We then kept the bars on through laziness, and DC1 slept amazingly. Bars finally removed at just before 4 and the sleep went to pot. DC1 ended up in the spare room double bed and it took 8 months to transition them back to a big bed in their room. Tbf, we've never been particular bothered about who sleeps where in our house (so long as they sleep!), so didn't put a lot of effort in and just left it to DC1 to decide when they were ready.

I would make sure you have a stair gate at the top of the stairs if you can, even if you have a confident stair user. My DC1 who had been using the stairs safely for ages tripped and fell down them one night on their way to find us because DC1 was tired and confused from sleep. So we always shut the staircase to avoid tripping over pyjamas or tired falls (we need one for the baby now anyway).

Dd also stayed in her cot for ages. I think she was almost 4! She just hated the bed and honestly I couldn’t see the harm in it/want the battle. One day she said she wanted a bed and that was that.

As long as his room is child-proofed you should be fine. Is all the furniture screwed to the wall?

He moved into a normal single at 21 months because he climbed out at 18mo (only left it that long because he needed to be in a travel cot on holiday). No bed guard because he’d have to learn to sleep without one eventually, he’s fallen out twice. We have a camera. But we let him “mooch”. It’s his room. So long as he’s quiet and he doesn’t faff for hours we leave him to it. He’s 26mo. He can’t get out of his room though, knobs not handles.