AIBU - I’m a working mum of four children, my DH is retired (has been for c.10 years from the age of 56). I generate the majority of the household income, stressful senior job, look after all the finances and admin, do all the housework except cooking evening meal, generally have our younger children to entertain all weekend.
DH has a back/neck injury that he hasn’t been to the doctor about in c.2 years, refuses to take proper pain relief and follows his own exercise/physio plan (which the more medically informed tell me is causing more pain and will give him arthritis). I’ve told him to go to the doctor, see a private osteopath and he won’t.
He has started waking me up a couple of times every night doing his ‘physio’ in bed. I can’t get back to sleep, I’m exhausted, averaging about four hours a night. I asked him to stop doing it in bed and he says I don’t care about him.
Seriously about to tell him to sleep on the sofa - had enough, I’m such a walkover with him normally and he wins every argument because I hate a bad atmosphere. AIBU / uncaring?
Note - he does stay busy during the day as we have a few properties and he does all the maintenance / DIY and he’s amazing at it, but I get up at 7am and never sit down before 11pm so I’m flat out too.