Baby always finishes the night in bed with me

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Firsttimemum623 · 02/09/2023 07:34

My Dd is 10 weeks old and has gone through phases of being a good and bad sleeper in those 10 weeks, but her most recent trick is driving me to distraction. After I put her down for her final middle of the night feed, she doesn't stay asleep for very long. She then starts this grunting wine which either escalates into crying if I ignore her, or if I rock her crib/give her a dummy etc she goes back to sleep for all of ten minutes before waking up and doing the same again. Sometimes she'll poop/pass wind (so I have wondered if it's trapped wind), but she still carries on afterwards. The only way I have managed to get her to go back to sleep properly is to put her in bed with me, which I'd really rather not do. It's become a nightly routine.

She's obviously not done sleeping for the night as she will sleep quite happily, sometimes for another 3 hours, once she's in our bed. It's normally getting light outside when she starts doing this and our curtains do let in some light. Could this be a factor?

Anyone got any tips/suggestions what her problem is and/or how to get her to settle in her own bed at these times? For clarity, she doesn't do this every time I put her down in the crib, just in the early hours of the morning.

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Dryshampoofordays · 02/09/2023 07:38

Your tiny baby just needs to be close to her mum, it’s completely normal. Google safe bedsharing to make sure it’s as safe as possible when she’s in bed with you.

Turtlegurl888 · 02/09/2023 07:42

Same here. After about 430/5am I've got little hope of getting him back into his cot but mine is nearly 6 months!

I kick my DP out of bed to the spare room and just pull the blankets off that side of the bed and give him lots of space. I have noticed if we have a big cuddle and he drops off in bed, half the time I can transfer him back to the cot and he stays there for another couple hours. Try persevering with transferring when baby has gone back to sleep.

I think they just miss their mama and need a big love ❤️ I understand though, I never really wanted my baby in bed with me and 100% couldn't do it all night, I doze at best when he's in with me. I feel much, much better about it now he's 6 months and more sturdy, it's scary having a fragile little baby in the bed when the fear of god about bedsharing and sids is put into you.

DeadbeatYoda · 02/09/2023 20:53

Dryshampoofordays · 02/09/2023 07:38

Your tiny baby just needs to be close to her mum, it’s completely normal. Google safe bedsharing to make sure it’s as safe as possible when she’s in bed with you.

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frogswimming · 02/09/2023 20:59

That's just normal baby behaviour. Especially since she's so tiny. Get a next to me crib, or if that won't work, safe Co sleeping. You'll all get more sleep and be refreshed the next day.

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Firsttimemum623 · 02/09/2023 23:23

Thanks folks, I was worried this might be the consensus. Our bed is quite tall and there's no real way to make it safe, so I do feel very uncomfortable about having her in the bed. Sometimes hubby sleeps in the spare room when he's working, so I feel happier doing it when there's more space, maybe I need to kick him out more often 🙈

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frogswimming · 02/09/2023 23:27

You could get a bed guard or use the close to me crib so the baby doesn't fall out. Make sure dh is on the far side of you from the baby.

Brandyb · 02/09/2023 23:29

It honestly sounds like you need to find a way to make this work for the time being - just gotta find any way to get some kip.

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