Baby not sleeping long overnight

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I have a little boy age 10 weeks & 3 days and he’s not sleeping any longer than 3 hours at a time over night and I’m exhausted.
he’ll be up at midnight then again at 3/3:30am he’ll then go back down and be up an hour or so later it’s then soon 7am when my daughter (almost 3 is getting up) and I’ve been up 2-3 times in 8 hours with him.

half the time he’s not even hungry. I’m writing this now at 4am after he’s woke after being asleep for 3 hours and he’s had an oz of milk and is refusing any more. The bedroom is at a nice temp he doesn’t feel too hot or too cold.

Im in new territory here my daughter started sleeping 6+ hours from 7 week old then was sleeping straight through by 10 weeks. I know every baby is different and we were lucky with our daughter but surely by now he should be going longer than 3 hours at nighttime. During the day he can nap between 1-3 hours

My partner works 12hr shifts alternating days & nights each week so it’s just me for the night feeds 3 nights a week then on his days off ill do the nights and he gets up with both children first thing in the morning and let’s me get a few hours sleep. He’s a deep sleeper so even if he offers to do the night feeds I always end up waking up when the baby does to wake him up then I’m awake then so there isn’t much point in him doing the nights.

any tips on getting him to sleep a little longer. Even 4-5 hours would be a dream 😂
ive tried an extra oz of milk before bed he refuses it once he’s full
bath followed by baby massage
dark bedroom

Sounds normal to me (I’m up right now for the same reason you are!). My first was like your first and always has been a good sleeper from very early on, never had issues with sleep regressions or clock changes. They will settle eventually.

We are in survival mode at the moment - me in one bedroom with baby, partner in spare room. During the week my partner listens out for the toddler at night and gets up with him, takes him to nursery etc while I stay in bed. At weekends/his days off we swap so I get at least one full night ‘off’ each week, more if it’s a bank hol, holiday etc. It works for us and I need it. Could you do the same (appreciate it helps having a spare room to escape to)? We are formula feeding and have a perfect prep, nappy station in the bedroom, stuff on the bed for quick nappy changes in the night etc so I can get straight back to sleep.

Fingers crossed we start seeing 5/6 hours soon x

My baby is 4.5 months old and wakes every 2-3 hours in the night, sometimes we're lucky and get one stint of 4 hours! He will not go in the next to me cot either apart from his first stint of sleep. And for the last 2 nights after his feed around midnight he just won't settle. I fed him 3 times, each time his eyes closed on the boob but as soon as he came off was screaming! Other half had to take him off me at 2am and take him downstairs as I was touched out from him being constantly attached to me!
I've no advice at all to give you, just to let you know for all the babies that are already sleeping through, there are a bunch of us in the 4am wide awake club 😂🤦🏾‍♀️

Sounds normal. Mine was 1-2 hours at that age! I think you were lucky with your first so it’s probably set your expectations higher. It’s really hard, but normal.

Totally normal. They have very small tummies and need to be fed regularly.

Totally normal - think of it this way - baby waking is also a SIDS preventative measure.

You need to instead look at how you can get optimum rest during the day.