Success without sleep training? Bed and nap help

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baby is 6.5 months, still in next to me next to my bed as still fits and partner doesn’t want him not in the room with us. But he’s not going to fit in it much longer and I want him to start in his own room. As it stands I would probably spend a lot of nights in his room

how successful have you been getting baby to sleep through the night without sleep training? Bit scared and not too sure whether I want to yet but need to do something

i thought start with naps in his room. Well today second nap we went in, dark room, white noise, sleep bag like night time and he just screamed even when I held him. Not sure whether new surroundings even though I try spend time in there with him to get him used to it. Ended up coming back downstairs and he contact napped. I really want to get him sleeping in his cot fairly independently as he will be going to nursery in 2 months and they won’t hold him for a nap.

I guess I’m wondering whether I could get his naps ok which will help me with nights ready to move him into his room soon and then be ready for nursery without sleep training? Any success stories of it happening naturally?

thanks

Can you put the cot in your room to start ?

Stop being so precious

Your DC fit around your life

Put your DC into their room at 7pm or whatever every night and just walk away and do not go back in

After 3 nights they'll have cried themselves to sleep, have got over it and that's that

It's easier when it's DC2 because you'll be reading their bedtime story so you'll have no option but to shove crying baby into bedroom and shut the door on them

Are you putting him in the new bigger cot now too? It could be that more than anything? No experience as with DD1 atm but my sister struggled with cot transition. Agree with @DustyLee123 if you could try the big cot in your room? Have all naps always been contact naps? (Interested as I currently do this!)

@HappiDaze thats quite harsh and while it may have worked for you, not everyone is comfortable with letting them cry it out.

I fed baby in his room so maybe he got used to the light and smell that way. Then started with a daytime nap with a cloth with my smell next to him, nothing special with lights or anything. Baby slept fine. Two months later I put baby in their room for the night and he slept through the night.

Yep always contact napped really. A few weeks ago started putting him in his swing once asleep but always woke up after maybe 30 mins. Keep trying it now but always have to rescue the nap and do contact nap for the rest. Definitely don’t have room in our room for his cot to come in either. Probably for the best my partner would have him in our room til he was 5 probably!

thanks for the idea about feeding in his room. I’m going to start that tomorrow. He’s with a family member Thursday so for consistency going to restart trying naps on Friday as I figured partner is home to help on the weekend too. Tomorrow I will take him in the room lots and feed him.

I really don’t want to do cry it out method. Baby previously once cried so hard he was sick in his pram and frightened the life out of me so I would rather avoid him getting that worked up!

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Quite frankly, you sound vile

30 Minute sleep cycles are really normal, don’t worry about that. Sometimes baby wakes up and after looking around a bit they go back to sleep. But contact naps are very pleasant as well of course 😊

Oh my god I hope no one actually does this! Even cio advises returning at short intervals. Just leaving them feels like abuse to me.

There are so many different ways to 'sleep train'. My health visitor recommended the book 'Teach your child to sleep' book. It has lots of information and different suggestions of things to try. You choose the method that best suits you and your family and follow the step by step instructions.

Whatever

It worked for me by chance

I decided I needed to put DS first as DD being a baby would have no memory of it whereas DS would so I read to DS so put DD in a different room at 7pm.

By the time I'd finished his story time she'd fallen asleep. I repeated this for 3 nights as it clearly worked and I could have special one in one time with DS who was 3.

I actually have no recollection how long she cried. Probably about 5 mins max

You're all complete idiots if think I'm 'vile' or 'harsh' etc and so eager to jump on that nasty MN wagon of pointing fingers etc etc based on your perceptions from a couple of written sentences from one short post that was concise and to the point

As for DS he was my first DC

He was by my side the whole time and slept at all sorts of hours as there was no need to try out the crying out method which I didn't even know a thing till after I'd even tried it out on DD which was just a fit in to our lifestyle thing

DD luckily was a dream baby as was DS

They were both perfect

OP

Just do what feels right for you and suits your lifestyle

Don't take unsolicited advice just do the research and try out what suits you and DC