Please help figure out my 11 month old's sleep!

[niccstar3000]

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My dd2 is 11 months old, very active but very easy going and happy, desperately trying to walk, bit of a throw herself into anything sort of kid (so far!)

So, the issue. On a good night, she will feed twice around 10pm and around 3am, waking for the day between 6 and 7. Actually feeds too, both boobs, a good 10 minutes or so on both. Not so good nights she'll wake 3 or 4 times more, and a few weeks ago I could settle her in her bed but more recently it's got harder and she wants to be fed more. Last night, she fed at 10 and woke again at 1.30 and I spent 1.5 hours trying to settle her as she cried and screamed before I gave up and fed her at 3am. Then she slept til 6.50.

other relevant info...
She was 50th centile for weight when she was born and at her recent health visitor check she was down to 9th.

She feeds 4 times during the day, has three reasonably balanced meals and also snacks. Also always tries to steal food from anyone who has it!

She self settles for naps and at bedtime. Morning nap is about 9.15 til 10, afternoon nap is 1.15/30 til 2.30/3. She goes to bed between 6.30 and 7.

We are currently in a 2 bed house so while she still wakes so much, she is in with us at night in a travel cot, but sleeps in the bedroom she will share with her sister (4 years old) during the day in her cot.

I'm getting to the point where I'm willing to sleep train but after last night, I'm not convinced it'll go well!

Anyone have any thoughts? Similar experience? Solidarity? TIA

I partially nightweaned ds after he had firmly settled on one nap at 15 months. Using Jay Gordon's approach, basically just cuddled him while he screamed at me, but continued to offer a feed post 4am. I dropped that feed when he 2 and 3 months. I didchave to steal myself and commit to not giving in ever. Itcfekt right for me and I comforted him through the change, I knew he would be upset but it didn't feel cruel.

I did this because he could easily wake only once or twice some nights but then we visited my sister and he was trying to wake up for feeds 6 times a night again. It really helped and after 3 nights or so he basically only woke for the feed after 4, sometimes woke up earlier but settled very quickly for a cuddle and sometimes slept all the way through.

With your daughters low weight now probably isn't the time to night wean though? Maybe wait till she's a bit older and her weight has settled on the same percentile for a period?