Hello, I have a dispute with my husband where I believe we should put an effort to sleep training my 10 month old now and do not wait till things get even worse where he thinks it makes no sense because all his routine will be flipped upside down in few days.
A little background. Baby was a mix of cot and cosleeping. He was in bed with us if I fell asleep or moved back to his cot after BF with no issues. He was able to fall asleep in his cot for naps or night time by himself as well if he had to.
We were going through various sleep regressions, dropping night time feedings etc but recently he became very clingy to me (more than usual), he only wants to sleep on top of me (it doesn't seem like he is teething at the minute or have any health underlying issues). He will scream the bloody murder and throws himself like a lion in the cage if I only try to put him in his cot. Even if i let him to fall asleep in my arms and even attempt to get him to his cot - its all over again - just done 1.5 sesh of listening to hysterical screaming. I lean over the cot and try to cuddle him while he is inside it but he is too furious to accept the help.
We are going to stay with in laws this monday night and fly abroad on Wednesday to stay there for full month. As soon as we are back in the UK he will be starting nursery. I feel like I've been in similar situation before where we used to bounce him to sleep and there came the point where even this wasn't enough and there was nothing else to give. I gradually went from bouncing to holding then to lying down in bed with me to his own cot. When he will reach point of sleeping on top of me isn't enough, we will be in a thin-walled flat with neighbours at every side or he be starting to learn falling back asleep on his own while starting nursery - good luck to nursery workers :/
I feel I began to feel resentment to my child because his separation anxiety. My husband believes in a month he will be a different baby and he will either outgrow that phaze or there will be something else going on with his sleep anyway...
What do you think?