How to sleep train cot climbing toddler

[Boshi]

My toddler is 14 months old, about 2 months ago we tried to sleep train her so she would sleep in her cot in her own room. It was kind of working to some extent, she would lie down as long as my DH was in the room however she wouldn’t sleep unless he was still there.

He tried leaving her to do the CC intervals but she figured out how to climb out of the cot - we abandoned that idea and my DH just stays with her until she sleeps.

Trouble is she’s a bad sleeper and once awake say at 1am she can stay awake until 4-5am. She cries if my DH leaves the room at any point during that time

Any tips on how to get around the climbing? CC worked for my older dc and they slept so well after just a few days of CC.

I can’t cosleep with dd as she is very hyper during the night and kicks and hits and throws things at my head while she is awake for a good few hours.

Please help! Her sleep situation is insane and it’s bringing us to our knees with lack of sleep. Currently my DH does the graveyard shift and I take over from 5am.. she’s been awake since 2/3am today and currently running around the house

I don’t think it’s ever right to sleep train a child, they need us in the night like they do in the day.

It’s worth checking her overall sleep, you say you can’t cosleep with her as she won’t fall asleep - is she tired enough? How many naps does she have, what’s bedtime and wake up time?

She might also be scared to fall asleep if you have been leaving her to cry, that’s scary for a child. Please try and follow her lead and things will fall into place, you can’t compare her to your previous kids, every child is different.

Once she is much older and has developed a strong attachment, then she will be ready to be independent, but you can’t teach it, they only learn that you don’t come to them when they cry.

Just a couple of things . If she can climb out the cot is it on the lowest setting ? If so unfortunately you need to take the cot sides down it is much more of a hazard if she falls .

I hear you with co sleeping . Not the ideal solution but can you get an airbed in room so the both get some sleep ?

look at what stimulation she gets from Dh in the night . I very much found the super nanny approach no eye contact , no talking just gently settling down .

I was a childminder - I found some when I made a quiet shhhhh noise would settle others it stimulated.

very structured bedtime whether that is bath , story - all electronics off and quiet time before bed .

some of these might help - wishing you a peaceful night