When does it get better?

[Ilovepeas175]

My DD is 3.10 and still an awful sleeper. She’s been worse, but she’s also been better. We’ve had every kind of regression and just general sh!t sleep - and have tried sleep consultants, programmes, apps, patches, melatonin, you name it! Currently we’re getting - fighting sleep every night so it takes over an hour to settle her, then at the very least 1 wake up; proper cry/scream that if we don’t go in with a hand on back/shh, she’ll wake herself up and then be awake for hours. Sometimes it’s 5/6 wake ups, there’s no pattern or trigger that we can tell & she’s perfectly healthy otherwise. We’ve got used to the broken sleep but now throwing in even less time at night on our own, it’s a killer. And I’m piling on weight through feeling sorry for myself and eating everything in sight! Anyone else experience this and come out the end with a child who sleeps through consistently?

Sorry, what is 3.10? 3 years 10 months? She was born on 3rd October? What year? If we assume 3 Oct last year that would make her 9 months old? Mine didn't sleep longer than 2-3 hours for the first year, except for a few occasional random nights when he might do 6-7 hours but those were always isolated events. When I night weaned at 12 months he slept through a week later! And has continued sleeping much better except for illness or teething. Not always straight through but mostly with just one wake. So hang in there, better nights will come! 7-10 months is commonly one of the worst times for baby sleep as well.

@GinnyBee sorry, 3yrs 10 months 🙈

Read still awake by Lyndsey hookaway. Some good insight and tweaks to improve sleep. Following some of the suggestions helped my 2yo to go from 5-6 wakes to 1 wake most nights.

@Pastaf0rbreakfast thank you, ordered the book and it arrived today. Reviews are really good.

Bumping this as DD is 4years old now and still awful!

could you try a bed in her room? If you don’t want to cosleep in your room. You may all get more sleep

The easiest way to get the most sleep for everyone would be either her in a bed next to your bed in your room, or you in a bed next to hers.

fighting sleep every night so it takes over an hour to settle her...

Is this still the case? If so, what is happening during that hour?

@FATEdestiny thanks for the reply. The part about settling at bed time has actually improved and she tends to fall asleep much quicker with very little fighting! She does have one of us sit beside her though, which I know is not ideal, but if it means some downtime/rest for us, we’re currently taking it. She will still wake multiple times through the night, no rhyme or reason.A trip to Ikea may very well be on the cards for a new bed!