4 mo sleep is so bad I am going to collapse

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Since birth my 4mo hasn't been amazing at night time but there were some good aspects.

Good points:

• Always known it was nighttime and hasn't had long stretches of being awake in the night
• Doesn't cry a lot just stirs and needs help resettling

-Until around 2 weeks ago was waking 2/3 times a night quite predictably would have a quick bf and be back to sleep

• Easy to settle for (contact) naps in the daytime.

Bad points:

• From 3am always had to be next to me in the bed as wouldn't resettle in the cot (not necessarily 'bad' but meant I didn't sleep well from this point)

However....Since two weeks ago he has been waking basically every hour and will ONLY settle next to me (although would prefer to be ON me). I get no evening because despite falling asleep really easily he wakes up loads and needs me to resettle him.

I'm tired, fed up and feel like crying. I don't want to sleep train I just need someone to tell me it won't be like this forever and I can keep going.

Is this the 4mo sleep regression? When will it end? Will I ever sleep again

(I have a 4yr old and I have mentally blocked out the first year of his life because he cried non stop so I can't actually remember whether he did this).

Thank you.

It 100% won't be like this forever I promise x

It absolutely won’t be like this forever. It really won’t. Hang in there

This was me 8 months ago. Can confirm it gets better. Can confirm you will sleep again!

Hang on in there x

It is absolutely temporary, it'll be over before you know it. Do whatever works to get through - housework etc can be left, safely cosleep if that will help. You can do this and it will not be forever!!

You will sleep again! Get a big pillow and let baby sleep on that on your lap if you want to watch TV downstairs/have an evening. You'll won't be able to get up but you'll be hands free so just make sure you've someone to bring you drinks/snacks.
Co-sleep through this if it gets you the most rest

Oh you lovely lot. I just cried reading these because I just needed someone to reassure me I'm not doing it all wrong and 4 months is just a baaaaad time.

It definitely gets better. A few weeks ago this was me and I posted similar. From 11pm onwards it was every hour. I think what didn’t help he wasn’t tired enough either

my boy is now 5.5 months. I think if I remember it was about 2 weeks although not every night. At the time we had a bit of a schedule of 4 naps a day although they weren’t long naps normally 45 mins tops often on me.

I dropped to 3 naps and gradually over a few days it got better. I refused to cosleep as I was too scared and remember crying at the time over it. Try catch up on sleep at the weekend or whenever you can if you have any help or someone who can watch baby for a bit.

2 nights ago we did bed at 8, he woke at 1, then at 3 then at 7 so although not amazing it was better. Last night bed at 8, fed at 3 then slept til 7. Since he was born he has always woken at 5am!