Anyone cosleeping with a toddler or older?

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Whilst I feel it is good for DS (2.6), I am struggling to explain why to my ex, who I think will use it against me (because I'm babying DS, denying him his own space and am doing it for my own selfish needs). I'd just like some reassurance that I am not the only one and that it is ok.

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Co-sleeping with a 6.5 year old here! DH is in spare room.

It was never intended - just happened. He slept in his own cot and then bed till he was 3 and then it went downhill. Has been 'officially' sleeping with me for over a year. He is now embarrassed by it and doesn't want anyone to know and I have bought him an Arsenal duvet cover (which I hate but he loves) and he wants to move back to his own room this week when he put new cover on and make his room more 'sporty' - his words. And I will miss him terribly!

Whatever you do will be criticised by your ex - that is the nature of the beast. Your DS will move into his own bed and room when he is ready. That might come soon or not for a couple of years. If he is happy and secure and content and you are too then it is all fine.

Phew! Thanks Buda. Happy, secure and content were the words I needed to hear. He is all of those things with me. I think.

Good luck with moving to his own bed. I know it's not an easy thing to do.

i have twins 2/10 and live in bulgaria with my bulgarian husband i am scottish, my twins were early and never slept even in SCBU they had probs sleeping! So i sleep with them i have 2 little beds and mine (one bed on each side) and we sleep! Here it is not unusual for the mum to co-sleep her children! I would like them to sleep without me but after very little sleep for 16 months or so I shall wait a little longer and try to leave them when i can explain better to them!I also care most of the time alone for them and i do get tired sorry if this offends or sounds selfish to others but i need to sleep and this was my solution.

Hi matso - where in Bulgaria are you?

I lived in Sofia before moving here to Budapest.

dd2 (3.8) been in her own bed for about three weeks. Prior to that she co-slept with us.

She just decided one day that she was going to stay in her own bed and that was that.

We co-slept until the DCs were nearly 5 and 3.5. We then moved them into their own room with bunkbeds - they were so excited to have their own beds! We are in Japan and almost EVERYONE co-sleeps here - usually until the kids start school (aged 6). It is easier because most people (including us) sleep on futons on the floor, so there is no danger of falling out of bed, and because futons tend to be firmer than beds/mattresses, not much danger of suffocation. Everyone tends to have their own futon too, all lined up in the room.

Hello Buda
I am in Vidin, Lived here since twins were 6 months, previously worked here for 2 years 94-96..What were you doing in Sofia and did you have children here?

Semi-cosleeping -- DS goes to sleep in his own bed but will generally come in with us at some point between around 1am and 4am. Every so often he'll have a night where he sleeps through in his own bed, but only infrequently. We have a super-king bed so it works out fine.

cosleeping with a 23 month old. I think it's fine, all kids are different, some need their mum more, some need their mum longer. My DS has his own toddler bed with a nice duvet cover. The bed is near our bed, it's his choice where to sleep. TBH I think a child of that age would get out of the bed if he didn't want to be in it with you, although my DS has shown no signs of wanting to get out.

Co- sleeping is a very natural and special thing

My dd2 (2,11) starts off on her own bed but comes through to us everynight by about 12pm, dd1 (6) still creeps in the bottom too sometimes and it wont be long until dd3 (5 months) can come and get in!
I used to sleepwalk into my parents bed until i was 12

3.7yr old dd comes in with me most nights. I do like it on the whole, I love the cuddles and snugglieness but I have to say I'm trying to get her to stay in her own bed, she is a restless sleeper who wakes frequently and I am knackered

UnderRated, if your ds didn't want to sleep with you, I would think that at 2.6 he would be able to let you know - tell your x that both you and ds are happy and it's actually none of his business.

Semi co-sleeping here too - DS (3)eventually drops off in his own bed with us next to him.

Then he'll wake up at around 11-midnight and beg to some in to our bed ("I'll sleep all night", he keeps saying). Literally as soon as his head hits my pillow, he's fast asleep so it's obvious he still needs the comfort.

DH and me sleep on the edge of the matress 'cause he's lying like a starfish!

ds (3.5) starts off in his own bed but comes in with us sometime between midnight and 3am. I don't mind, although I think dh and I would get a better sleep if he stayed in his own bed! We could definitely do with a bigger bed though. It's not forever, and I'll miss him when he doesn't want to sleep in with us anymore.

Hi matso - was in Sofia from 2001 for 3 years. Moved when DS was 7 weeks old.

DH works for a large accountancy firm and we were there with his job.

Thanks for all the replies. I know other people cosleep but for some reason I needed to hear other people's experiences. Thank you for the reassurance. I feel better able to argue my case now. And I agree, if DS and I are happy, it is none of ex's business