Daytime BF weaning - what is wrong?

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Im just so puzzled to what is happening to my 9month old...
Because of my depression episodes, my therapist, me and health visitor decided that weaning of the breast will be best course of action. Because my baby didn't accept bottle or dummy, it will be very slow and gradual until he can drink cows milk at 12months.
From feeding every 3-4 hours day and night, we cut down the daytime feeds to am, lunch and bedtime. He was very fine with that and to my amusement - zero fuss at nap times.
Nightimes initially started of great, first nightfeed after 5h but then day after day those gaps started to shrink. We are two weeks in after daytime feeds been cut (he eats 5 meals a day and multiple snacks) and last night he kept waking up every hour and would scream like a possessed by the devil for as long as it takes for me to cave in. Not letting me to hold him, refusing to lie down and hitting me in the face.
His first feed he wanted 45minutes after he went down for the night. Hour later, he screamed so badly I thought he might be in pain, after dose of ibuprofen he just laughted in my face (like it helped in this exact second!) and continued to play, fuss, bubble, get up in his cot) for 3.5 hours
From everything going well it snowballed to awful... It makes me resent him even more. I cry everytime I have to feed him. I either have an option to try settle him without a boob, which will result crying with no end and then being awake for hours or let go and give in and let bad habbits continue.
Today's first nap of the day he was summoned by the evil again. Had to roar at him with same volume he was screaming to stratle him to finally stop fighting me and fall asleep on my chest.
HELP!

Teething?

so hard to tell, he had teething pains on and off for 5 months before first one pushed through. had his 2nd cracked 2 days ago... screaming like possessed after the fact? 🙄

https://sarahockwell-smith.com/2015/11/18/what-the-heck-goes-wrong-sleep-wise-at-8-10-months/

Please don't roar at your baby 😪. This sounds incredibly frustrating - can you talk to your health visitor about sleep training? It can work really well for babies at this age.

Hi op, it sounds like you're having a really hard time. It will definitely get easier I promise. I found Sarah Ockwell-Smith shockingly accurate on when sleep would be bad in the first year. I just waited this phase out and he slept much better of his own accord by 11 months.

It perhaps is just a really difficult time to be trying to stop breastfeeding because it's naturally a time when lo will be waking up a lot and it means you have to keep on settling them without the easiest option. It sounds like you really need to stop for you though, and that makes it really important.

I recently stopped but it was a very gradual process and mine is older so it's a different ball game. However our journey to stopping started with partial night weaning. I read that it's better to do that first as stopping the day feeds but feeding on demand at night can mean they wake more to get it then.