dont want to co sleep but keep falling asleep while breastfeeding 2 week old

[pud1]

i dont want to get into the habit of co slleping but i am so tired i fall asleep while feeding my 2 week old baby lying down. she will sleep for up to 3 hours when she sleeps with me but only manages up t 1 hour in her crib. she currently feeds for over an hour and falls aslle while feeding. dont think she is getting enough food. does her weight effect how oftern she feeds. she is putting weiht on but is only 6lb 4oz

It's early days don't worry about what is happening now creating huge problems re co-sleeping in a few weeks time. Recover from the birth, get your baby to stay awake during feeds - take her off to wake her up, try and put her down awake but don't worry she's very little and just getting used to the outside world.

i think i am obsessed with creating a sleeping problem as my neice is still in mum and dads bed at 7. feel like i am cheating putting her in my bed

I would say that if co sleeping is working for you at the moment (I mean if your dd sleeps for longer) then I would go with it! I wasted a lot of time trying to get my ds to sleep on his own when he was tiny, I now wonder why I felt so strongly about it. As long as there is no duvet and no one has been drinking or smoking I think it is safe. As your dd is putting on weight it would seem that she is getting enough milk.

Congratulations too - and don't worry, things will settle down soon.

Really really please don't worry about forming "habits" at this age. They change so much and so quickly in the first few months I would say just do what comes naturally for each stage. Anyway most babies in the history of the world have slept with their mothers.
My DS1 used to feed for about 1 1/2 hours at a time at this age!

I have done a lot of co sleeping, but now my ds is 13 months he spends the night in his own bed. (Sadly he wakes at 5.30, but I can live with that!)

I used PU/PD with mine when they were very young but they were big healthy birthweights who drank gallons and slept well. After 6 weeks or so your dd will be a bit more aware and during the day you could try PU/PD (pick Up Put Down - in the Tracey Hogg books) to let her be happy in her crib on her own. At the moment sleep for you is about sanity & survival!

pud, i was a total neurotic about not getting into "bad"sleeping habits, but it really is early days. The key is to help your lo nod off on her own, but don't worry too much about it. It is tiring for her to feed, so she is bound to nod off. When she's six weeks or so and a more efficient feeder and generally more alert, you can start implementing whatever sleeping plan works for both of you. Don't be afraid of letting her guide you to the best routine - that's the biggest lesson i learned from my lo. BTW, he is now 19 mths and has slept through 12 hours a night in his own bed since he was about 7 months - partly luck, partly design! I tried applying the "experts'" routines, but in the end we worked around what suited him best.
If she is putting in weight and has wet nappies, she is getting enouhg.

pud I echo what everyone else says don't worry and take the opportunity to sleep I did this with both my dcs and they both sleep in their own spaces now
also she is so little and not long ago was in a lovely warm place very close to you being in bed with you must be just like that for her I always thought this was why my ds slept better next to me in the early days

I agree with the others, don't think they become more aware of surroundings until after about 4/5 months. Do whatever you can to maximise your sleep and don't worry about bad habits, it's just as likely that you won't create any.

My HV told me not to worry about creating bad sleeping patterns till they're at leasy 8 weeks old. They're too young to learn anything at 2 weeks old.

Least, not leasy. Duh.

thankyou all.

i am going to sleep with her tonight if she wants it and enjoy a few hours sleep. have not seen my hv yet and my mw has only been a few times so not been able to ask any one. thanks again

Pud, i'm sure your HV will have her own opinions but remember you're not obliged to follow her advice if you don't want to. Mine was totally useless.