Looking for any advice as to how best to proceed!
LO is almost 11 weeks and has slowly over the last few weeks become more and more reliant on dummy. I used to be able to put him down most of the time at night without it, at around 8 and then after the next feed at 11 and again at 2/3. Then once he started fussing around 4/5 I would use the dummy to help get him back off for another hour or so.
Over the last few days he is not settling at all without it, in the day and at night. I cannot rock, shush, white noise, pat to sleep, nothing works.
This wouldn’t be an issue at all if he kept it in. I had been able to take it out as he was falling asleep which would mean he did a solid chunk as usual. But recently even this hasn’t worked and he wakes as soon as I do it or wakes a couple of minutes later when he goes to suck. This means he is only sleeping for one sleep cycle at a time at most from the beginning of the night to the end.
Last night I was replacing it every 20 mins from around 2 in the morning.
I appreciate it is good there is something that helps him sleep but I’m not going to be able to deal with the putting it back until he can do it himself.
I think he is still too young to go cold turkey and when I’ve tried to soothe him without it, it feels like controlled crying(I’m not opposed to this). So I have just been giving it to him.
Does anyone have any experience of how/when they took the dummy away? I know it says it is easiest between 3/4 months which is soon but I don’t understand how people are taking it away at this stage without just letting baby cry? Is controlled crying leaving them without it on their own or staying and rocking etc until they get off to sleep?
Any advice would be hugely appreciated