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13 month old still up every hour or two all night

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HighlandsMummy · 25/06/2023 09:50

Hello,
I’m new here but really hoping that someone might be able to give me some advice as we’re really struggling with what to do.
DD has never slept for longer than four hours (which was a brief few weeks back when she was 8 months old) and is constantly up every two hours and often every hour. She’s been in a big side along crib (we co-slept for a little bit following a bout of illness but once she was well she liked her own space again.) We’ve been trying to move her into a cot at the end of our bed to help her sleep better as recommended by the health visitor. She won’t go down awake, she’s very active and will just start jumping and playing but she will go down and sleep in the cot fine once rocked to sleep. Problem is that she still wakes up just as much and it’s even more tiring having to get up and get her out of the cot. I’m still breastfeeding her and am worried that I’ve caused the problem by feeding her at night but they said feed on demand so I did and I don’t know how you transition out of that when she will literally scream for hours at night until she gets milk. My partner tries rocking her like he does at bedtime but has never succeeded in getting her back off in the middle of the night even if he’s at it for over an hour. I worry that she’s in pain, she seems to be constantly teething and the way she writhes at night makes it look like her tummy is sore too so I don’t know what to do, giving her milk feels like the right thing to do at the time and she gulps it down but I’m worried I’m just making it worse. She’s like a different baby during the day, very happy and independent and very active, she’s runs around all day long but at night she seems to really struggle. We can’t put her in her own room yet as we’re staying with family whilst we do up our house. Any advice gratefully received as we’re really struggling with tiredness, hard to think straight!

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Gingerwright · 25/06/2023 09:57

Ours was like this at that age, fed on demand, still waking every couple of hours. Night weaning worked for us. DH did it over a long weekend off work. He napped during the day to make up for it!
Took three days I think. DH just comforted through the night, and offered water. By night 3 he only woke briefly once. Since night 4 he's slept through every night for months now. Bliss.
If you decide to try similar, could you sleep on a sofa/floor in a different room for a few nights? You being in the room smelling of milk won't help.

HighlandsMummy · 25/06/2023 10:36

Thank you. That sounds like a good thing to try. He’s about to go away for work for the week but we’ll try it when he gets back. Fingers crossed!

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GinnyBee · 25/06/2023 13:54

Mine kept waking every 2-3 hours until I night weaned right after 12 months. At 11 months we dropped to 1 night feed but even still he woke up every few hours and went back to sleep with a cuddle. Around a week after dropping the last feed he started sleeping through 🤷‍♀️

The drop to 1 feed happened almost accidentally. I'd gone out to dinner with some friends and hubby was on bedtime duty. He had formula available if he needed it but decided not to use it and just bounced him when he woke. So the baby ended up having his first feed around midnight after I was home, and then his next wake up around 2am he didn't want feeding and was back asleep before I managed to even lift my top, all he wanted was another body next to him. I then decided to try that again and just not feed until past midnight. Then when it came time to drop that feed we bounced and soothed him in other ways until 4am at first and then I would feed, and gradually try to make that later. It only took a couple nights to be honest, and soon I wasn't feeding him overnight at all and giving the first feed around 6-7am. He still kept waking for about a week and then magically one night just slept through! And he's done that consistently, bar one cold he had, for over a month now!

HighlandsMummy · 25/06/2023 17:06

That’s amazing, that’s so good to hear. I’ve been really struggling to know what to try. It’s so hard to think when you’re so tired! Thank you for the suggestions. I’ll try them tonight.

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