I write this post in sheer desperation as the lack of sleep is affecting my mental health, work, and relationship.
Facts: DS 15months, naps 1-2x a day. We generally cuddle for a few mins, and then I put him down and leave and he drifts off himself. This doesnt work at night. He screams bloody murder if you leave, so we end up pacing the room rocking. He then wakes every 40mins with more rocking til im ready for bedtime and i sleep in his room (cot and double) and we cosleep and he generally sleeps through. We use a dummy and comforter. I am pregnant. DS will be 21 months when new bubba arrives.
Issue: id like him to sleep on his own at bedtime. And connect his cycles. We have tried controlled crying but as hes quite an affectionate baby, the crying is distressing and he ends up hyperventilating. Plus i miss sleeping next to my husband who sleeps in our bedroom.
How can I fix this? Its a gazillion times worse when he is unwell as even when cosleeping, he'll frequently wake and expect rocking til sleep. He is a long baby and a chunk so is getting heavier.
Im annoyed at myself for not perservering more with sleep training him when he was a tad younger. I feel now it will be harder as hes more emotional.
Any advice would be appreciated.