I just posted this in chat but posting here as well as I’m really desperate. There’s a lot going on at the moment and I’m struggling to think straight, so hoping for replies somewhere at least! I really need an outside perspective on this. DD2 is 14m old and her sleep is up and down. She can have patches where she sleeps through fairly reliably but the patches are always interrupted by something and she is prone to split nights. She has these when she naps too long in the day, so I cut her nap to 1.5 hours. Sometimes she throws them in at random as well. Like last night.
When she wakes in the night if it’s not a split night I can rock her back to sleep and put her down and that’s usually fine for the rest of the night. However usually I’ll be up for an hour. When it’s a split night she will sit on my lap and chat happily but will scream and bang her head on the cot if I put her down. She goes back to sleep in my arms after 2 hours.
Rocking her is hurting an injury I have on my shoulder and the pain from this then keeps me awake. And to be honest if it’s a split night I feel really angry with her. Sometimes I have to walk away to calm down. I know it’s not her fault and I feel like a crap mum. If I try to soothe her in the cot she screams. Plus, if it’s not a split night usually there is something wrong if she wakes up, so I do need to pick her up.
I’ve tried bringing her into bed but she just crawls around on me. We’ve stopped feeding so that’s not an option.
Wise women of mumsnet, what should I be doing when she wakes in the night?!