3 month old wont sleep alone

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Hi all
My baby is 12 weeks and is yet to do any real independent sleep. My husband and i are still doing shifts for sleep and i know DS is still young but i really hoped it would improve by now. He is on omeprazole for reflux which i do think helps but its a real struggle to get the full dose in him. (EBF and refuses a bottle) most nights i manage to put him down and he can be really sound asleep but 20 mins later awake with either wind or reflux issues. I really try and wind him as much as possible make sure he gets some good farts out etc but still seems to bother him. I do all the things white noise etc. Anyway im absolutely exhausted. I love him so much but i am really not loving being a parent so far. DH is off at the moment which is great but when he goes back to work he will be away so it will be just me 24/7 and im terrified how im going to cope. The only way i get sleep right now is when DH has him. Litterally any sleep. I knew having a baby was hard but i didnt know it would be like this and i feel like a failure all the time!

Will this only sleeping on us pass anytime soon!?

It will pass, but if sleeping whilst held, if he’s more propped up on you, that might be the reflux. It helps keep milk down, though you can’t prop him up in his own cot as it’s a safety hazard, you can try to put him down after an hour with you and see how it goes.

I've been there OP, it is horrible but it will pass. You must be absolutely exhausted. Is the omaprezole dose high enough? I mixed it with water and syringed it. Made my DH administer as she is such a wiggle bum, we had to push into the back of her cheek so she didn't spit it out.

A sling was massively helpful for me at this age. My DD is now 7 months and going through the hell of teething but she will now be put down. I think she started being able to be put down very very soon after 12 weeks once she was on a good dose of omaprezole.

You are doing absolutely brilliantly xxx

We had liquid omeprazole that I just syringed straight into his mouth, and he never fought it. Having a reflux baby is really hard, sorry you're in the thick of it! We coslept for months, because reflux aside he was a wakeful baby anyway, and that helped everyone get the most sleep, but only once the reflux was under control. Once we started weaning it first got a bit worse but then started finally settling down, and by 8 months he was off medication, with the odd flare up with teething. As for independent sleep, he exclusively contact napped for 9 months, and at night time we bedshared full-time until 8 months when I transitioned him into a floor bed, and since then we've been part-time cosleeping on nights when he seems to need it.

He is now 13 months and last week started sleeping through on his own in his own bed!

Thanks @Snorkello doesn't seem to make much difference how long i wait before putting him down unfortunately. 😢

@Purple89 thanks for the reply. We've got 2nd jabs tomorrow so il check on the dosage but tbh it's rare we get the whole lot in him he screams bloody murder and starts choking it's very stressful! Ive been mixing it with milk and syringing it in as best i can whilst he is feeding. Need to persevere with it really if hes upset for 5 minutes i guess its worth it if it helps him!

Thanks @GinnyBee we also have the liquid just as above he absolutely hates it. Wow it sounds like such a long slog. I've been considering cosleeping but im not sure it will help all that much because its the lying flat that's the issue.