18 month old sleep help

[ThelastRolo20]

Hello! After some advice on whether I'm going about this the right way. Daughter is 18 months old, night weaned (has been for months) but nights are becoming increasingly trickier. We've never done any sort of sleep training and always just did what worked. But it's become a nearly 1.5 hours a night of lying next to her to get her to sleep, then she ends up waking at 10/11 and won't sleep unless in our bed. This is no longer working for us as we don't get an evening or sleep well as she's in the bed. Wanting to change this as with work etc life just feels too full on but then I know many people will say you just have to suck it up! Which is all well and good but it's getting worse, not better, and she's never fallen asleep in her cot. I was thinking pick up and put down method - has that worked well for anyone?

Thanks if you've read this far!

I have an 18m old that’s become a nightmare with sleeping now too! I’ve even introduced a bottle on waking because I just want him back asleep!

With it taking that long for him to go down, I’m wondering if it’s too much day sleep? What are his naps like?

Thanks for replying. She doesn't nap for long but it's not consistent as we fit it around day plans. But never more than 2 hours and awake by 2 normally. 2.30 on a not so great day! On average it's 11.30/12 - 1.00-2.00

We then start bedtime at 7 and on a good day she's asleep around 8, bad day 9 even 9.30. then awake by 11 wanting to come in our bed

Hi op we had this problem at 18 months and at 23 months now we still have issues. I‘ve been trying the stay and support approach by Lucy Wolfe but all I seem to have achieved is spending an hour getting him to sleep in a cot and then he still wants to come into bed with me at 11/12. He has also now started asking for a bottle which he has not had for months.
following for tips. I’m hoping it’s some big regression and it’s all going to magically just sort itself out!

Also to note, cutting molars made the sleep problems much worse for a few weeks. It was better when they were through.

@Workbabysleeprepeat well at least I know I'm not alone haha. It's just been steadily getting worse for a few months but she has been cutting molars. Even in the night if we try and settle her back in her cot she won't have it... Hate for her to be upset but I don't really want to continue as is for years 🙈

Hey OP, my little one is 20 months old and we’ve gone through the weird 18 month funk.

My DS went through crazy separation anxiety and he woke up 1-2 times a night screaming and wouldn’t settle until I came into the room/gave in and gave him some milk (not good I know).

In the day, I couldn’t even leave the room without him screaming at the top of his lungs!

But in a matter of weeks, things started to calm down and he changed dramatically in terms of his development.

One thing that helped us was shortening his midday nap to 2 hours (we let him sleep for 3 hours before this). And changing up his routine/bulking up his meals with more filling foods so he would sleep through the night.

You’ll get through this!

@ThelastRolo20 sending solidarity! 😊

My little one is 18 months in a few days and looks like the regression has hit us too. He's started to refuse bed time. He's been affected by every regression yet so I'm not surprised at this one.
He's also waking super early at 5/530ish. Naps between 10.30/11 for 2-3 hours. Bed time is 730 ish but not been going to sleep until 930/10.
He still breast feeds but hasn't fed in the night since 13 months and sleeps through. At 15 months we got a floor bed in his nursery and he sleeps on there all evening until we go to bed about 11pm . Floor bed may be worth a try for you?
It's exhausting but it won't last 💕

It helps to know it's not just us! It's getting ridiculous. Had a 1.5 hour nap finishing at 2pm and she is wide awake. No indication that she's feeling tired - absolutely exhausting. Even lying next to her she just screams, not entirely sure what we're doing anymore 😂

Ah god so nice to see I'm not alone!! Mine is slightly older at 26 months but same here, really upset and wanting a bottle, hasn't slept through in about 4/5 months, ends up with one of us in her bed every single night just so we can all sleep. She gets so upset the second we try and leave as well, it's not even a 'naughty' behaviour, it's like she is actually scared to be alone. It's awful.

My baby is slightly younger, 15 months, and I am now trying to wean her out of breastfeeding to sleep.
Lately she is been delaying her sleep time to around 9/9:30, but I am putting the blame in the longer pre-summer days, no any regression. I feel it's natural for her body to want to stay up, as we adults often do during this season.
It is annoying, as my and my partner do not have evening time alone, but I am taking a relax approach.