28 month old nap battles and #2 due any day - please help

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I'm about to pop with #2

#1 is always absolutely shattered by nap time (midday ish) but fights it so hard. It normally ends in tears, shouting, me leaving his bedroom, him in an absolute state and it can take me almost an hour some days but he does everntually sleep for 1.5-2 hours. He doesn't self settle and never has, we stay with him until he's asleep. He's in a toddler bed.

I'm just so bored of the battle but if he doesn't nap he's miserable all afternoon and it is so hard.

I don't see how I'll manage this with a newborn baby - it would be so stressful.

Should I just stop the nap altogether even though he's clearly shattered?

I find it so stressful and upsetting every single day.

Nap needs to go and after a few grumpy days you’ll probably see the sleep and wake times lengthen out.

in the transition, no strenuous activities in the afternoon, to avoid a danger nap. Have a quiet time where their nap would have been- tv / books etc.

Mine is a bit younger but I’ve long given up on naps in bed. If I push him in the pram after lunch though he’s asleep in minutes so I just do that- walk to the end of the road then park in the hallway and he sleeps for an hour normally. Would that be an option? You could have the new baby in the sling.

I probably have less patience as I'm full term
But he's been clamouring all over me, he's hurt me, hit me, refusing to lie down and go to sleep whilst simultaneously rubbing his eyes and crying today. I've ended up losing my temper as he really hurt me and now I feel so bad. I'm just so exhausted and not physically able to wrestle him off me right now

You poor thing.

Defo drop the nap though. A few awful days, and he'll be OK and go to bed earlier so you'll have more of an evening.

You need to work on hime going to sleep on his own, though, or at past male sure he can do so with you or your partner. So you have choice who goes up with him when baby arrives.

Thanks everyone.

He's a dream for his dad @Vintagecreamandcottagepie - just with me he seems to play up!