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I can't get my LO to sleep on their own

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MrsMummo · 06/06/2023 14:32

Hi! My little one year old munchkin will not fall asleep independently (at home! At nursery apparently she is a champ, they place her on the little mattress gets herself comfy with a puppet and off she goes to dreamland) when I place her in bed after her bottle she will just start crawling around the bed and playing around, I remplace her making soothing noises and she just laughs as it was a game! It takes me a solid hour to get her to sleep the days I can follow through some days I just give up I'm too tired, I need to work or rest and I find my patience running low.

Any advice on how to go about it? Tips tricks? Anything please!!!

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Muffinthemule1 · 06/06/2023 15:52

If I was you I'd just place her in her bed, give her a kiss, say goodnight and walk out leaving her to get to sleep herself (as you know she can) I do this with my 10 month old little boy, I just watch him on the camera and sometimes it can just take a while for him to fall to sleep, if after sometime I can see he is struggling I will go in and give him a cuddle but it's totally up to you

FlounderingFruitcake · 06/06/2023 15:58

she will just start crawling around the bed and playing around
Sorry but why is this an issue? It’s one thing not wanting to leave her to cry but if she’s happy in the cot then I’d let her get on with it.

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MrsMummo · 06/06/2023 16:01

It's not per sei and issue but she gets over tired and gets progressively worst to get her to relax it's just a question of try and teach her/encourage self settling.

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MrsMummo · 06/06/2023 16:02

Muffinthemule1 · 06/06/2023 15:52

If I was you I'd just place her in her bed, give her a kiss, say goodnight and walk out leaving her to get to sleep herself (as you know she can) I do this with my 10 month old little boy, I just watch him on the camera and sometimes it can just take a while for him to fall to sleep, if after sometime I can see he is struggling I will go in and give him a cuddle but it's totally up to you

I'll definitely give a go leaving the room perhaps that will encourage her to settle!

Seems simple but to be honest haven't even thought about this one thanks so much!

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FlounderingFruitcake · 06/06/2023 16:16

Have you ever actually just left and not come back? If you want her to self settle then you need to let her self settle if that makes sense. My eldest was like this so I used to leave them with a board book to ‘read’ and a teddy to play with and they’d be asleep within about 15-20 minutes. Now they’re older they actually tell us to go away when they want to go to sleep after their bedtime story 🤣

Obviously it’s different if they are upset but if they’re happy in their cot then I really wouldn’t overthink it.

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MrsMummo · 06/06/2023 19:54

FlounderingFruitcake · 06/06/2023 16:16

Have you ever actually just left and not come back? If you want her to self settle then you need to let her self settle if that makes sense. My eldest was like this so I used to leave them with a board book to ‘read’ and a teddy to play with and they’d be asleep within about 15-20 minutes. Now they’re older they actually tell us to go away when they want to go to sleep after their bedtime story 🤣

Obviously it’s different if they are upset but if they’re happy in their cot then I really wouldn’t overthink it.

I think the "leave the room" is going to be the way! I will push for this once the teething wave we are riding and the sickness bug is gone hopefully one week! 🙃

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