Sleep training 17mo who is climbing out of bed

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Please help! At my wits end!
for the last 6m, we have been out of routine due to travelling a lot. Been back home over a week and been trying the cry out method. My daughter seemed to be getting the message but has now started climbing out of bed. She’s out the cot by time I even reach the bedroom door. She’s hysterical as soon as I put her in her cot. It’s not like she only starts crying when I leave the room, the crying starts whilst I’m still in the room and as soon as she enters the cot sometimes even before. My husband is anti cry out method and even more so now that she’s climbing out. He is saying she will hurt herself but it’s worked successfully for my friends children . She seems to be climbing and landing on feet so I don’t think she is going to hurt herself. Do I preservere ? I really have no other option but to have her in her own room because I am due second baby in 4 weeks and our room isn’t big enough for our bed, newborn crib and eldest cot even if we wanted to. I want her in something of a routine before new baby arrives and it’s driving me to the point of despair. I live in a different country to my family so will be riding solo and my husband will only have a week off work when newborn arrives so really need to figure something out soon. Is 17months too young for a toddler bed? Is continuing with cry out (Ferber) method ok if they are climbing. Do I just keep putting them back in cot after climbing until she tires herself out from climbing / crying . I want to make bedtime positive and do all the usual things such as shower , book , singing but she’s realises what’s coming … any advice is welcomed . Sorry for the long post . Pregnant and stressed haha

It's almost like she's trying to tell you she hates being alone and doesn't want to sleep in a cot.

I don't agree with cry it out. If she wants to cosleep just let her do that.
Stop comparing with your friends kids. All children are different. Your baby seems so anxious about bedtime she's getting worked up on the way to bedtime and that's not going to go well, is it?

I personally would let her cosleep or whatever it was you used to do. She will become more independent as she grows. My son was like this but he now goes to bed happily for a story and sleeps through most nights. If he does wake and come through I pull him into my bed and he falls asleep again.
I'm still cosleeping with my 18 month old too. They're not little long

If she's climbing over the sides of the cot, the cot needs to go.
Then you've got a 17 month old who can climb in and out of bed......
Personally, I used to leave DS to it, and scoop him off the floor into bed when I came to bed.....

Thank you for your advice, I really do appreciate your replies …
i would been happy to continue co-sleeping but I have a new baby on the way in 4 weeks and will be having a Caesarean and don’t feel confident having a figedty toddler next to me when I’m recovering and also the new baby will be waking every 3 hours to feed … furthermore I actually live in turkey and it’s super hot so sharing a small double bed with hubby and a toddler and then throwing a newborn into the mix in 30+ degrees heat isn’t do-able and neither do we have the space to physically have a crib and cot! If it wasn’t for all that I would have given in by now and gone back to co-sleeping so I really need to get her to settle in her own room for all those reasons and I think I was about to crack it until she started climbing 🤯🫠 prior to this , I would lay down with her in big bed and let her drift off and then put cushions around her and pop out room until I went to bed . Maybe she just doesn’t like the confines of a cot because she would happily sleep in a big bed alone (room was safety proofed , bed is a low bed etc) so that’s got me thinking maybe she will be happier with a toddler bed albeit earlier than we had planned as she won’t feel caged in …