When does it get easier?

[Hensheee]

Got a 10 week old and 3 year old. Really struggling with them both. 10 week old wakes all the time through the night and 3 year old is jelous and demanding. When does it get easier?

It gets easier every month, by about 5 the oldest would take them both down and turn on the TV in the morning.

I remember being in your position like it was yesterday and they are now 16 and 19yrs old.
One thing that really helped with the 3yr old giving them some 1 to 1 time with me. If can leave little one with dh/partner/grandparents even for an hour or 2 and take the 3yr old out for a special cafe treat or soft play on their own.
It takes time to adjust so just focus on one step at a time. It will get easier. Like previous poster said once mine were a bit older they crept downstairs together and watched TV early in the morning .

Definitely need to make sure the oldest doesn't feel sidelined as they'll just resent the baby when you need them to bond. Lots of tlc with the oldest and 1:1 time when baby asleep etc. it's hard work but best investment of your time as when they grow up little buddies it's the cutest most helpful thing for you! Good luck keep your chin up x

Thanks :)

yeah I had naively thought my second would just slot in and I’d have lots of time to spend with my eldest playing while the baby slept. But she’s the sort of baby that won’t nap in a crib, is becoming less fond of the sling and just wants to sleep on me for naps. So this is annoying my eldest (understandably!!) and he’s saying he wants her to go away and he doesn’t like her etc