Refusing the cot

[Chanel05]

DS is 5 months old. He's baby number 2 so I've tried to be as consistent with naps as possible but it's not always the case with an older child to consider. From 5mo she had all naps in the big cot but it was lockdown and nowhere to go!

DS is ebf. Won't take a bottle, won't take a dummy, so I'm everything to him and he won't go to sleep without me, ever. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love our bf journey but I'm
sat here trying to get him down for his nap and he keeps waking up. I understand this is completely normal but all I wanted was half an hour of peace. DH took DD out for a walk and I was hoping just to have a bit of silence. His night time sleep is appalling too.

Now I'm crying because they just got home and DD snuck upstairs whilst he put the stroller away and woke the baby after only 5 minutes.

Lurking on your thread as I could have written your OP! DS also a second, also a breastfeeding addict, also also also. Currently in a dark room in the rocking chair wondering where my life went, counting down the days till six months and sleep training/dreading it at the same time. We also don’t have a bedroom yet for him to be sleep trained in so I’m desperately trying to project manage that renovation on about two minutes of sleep a night.

Sorry I don’t have the answers, hoping others will. I suspect second babies need to come in for more tough love than PFBs when it comes to sleep.

What about white noise, very loud, to keep
him asleep while DD rampages?

@bussteward we do have the white noise on super loud. He just stirs at the slightest thing, no matter when and where he's sleeping :(.

OP I could of written this for both my DD's. Now 5 and almost 3. Neither ever slept in their cot (day or night) Co-sleeping saved me! To be totally honest i didn't find anything made any difference. With DD1 I found it really tough and frustrating like i was doing something wrong, I spent hours and hours trying to get her to sleep/nap and it just upset me and her. She never slept more than an hour at a time day or night. 2nd time around I lowered my expectations and stressed about it a lot less. They fed to sleep, every sleep or would nap in the car or buggy. Make yourself a cuppa and grab a BIG bar of chocolate 😝and let him feed/nap on you while husband takes DD out. Will he sleep in the buggy? Do you have a double buggy? Could DH take them both out? I know this is a total cliche and doesn't help right now but these years pass sooo quickly, especially with no 2 i found. Hang on in there 😘No-one tells you about this side of it when they're so pro breast feeding do they.