My 11m old is getting probably the bare minimum of sleep she should be having. She is an awful sleeper, we was co sleeping to make her sleep a bit longer but I hated it as it meant when it was her bedtime, I had to go to bed too because she wakes every 45mins-1hour so getting any ‘me’ time is impossible. She also will only nap for the length of a sleep cycle, 45mins. I broke down to the health visitor the other week about her sleep and she recommended cutting her nap down to one so she’s more tired in the evening and will hopefully sleep for longer. So I have been doing that and it was working ok, not great. I went back to putting my lo in her own room and she would sleep for a good 3-4hours before waking up and inevitably crying for me. However the past 3 nights she is back waking every 45mins-hour, screaming and getting herself in a state. I try so hard to keep her in her own room, going in every time she wakes up trying to resettle but I get so exhausted by around 1/2am I bring her into my bed. Where she will sleep till around 6am! Which means she is going all day with 1 45min nap and then when it comes to bed time waking up every hour until she’s brought into my room. I find that she is becoming very grumpy and irritable in the day. But when she does have 2 naps she’s the same..
I feel at a huge loss. She’s been the worst sleeper since the 4m sleep regression and I feel like I have tried everything. I sleep trained her at 6m using Ferber and that worked for about a month and a half, then she got separation anxiety and it’s carried on like this all the way till now. I really did hope by the time she’s 1 it will all get better but I cry because it just seems to be getting worse. I get no time to myself, I am constantly going up to resettle and in between doing that I am trying to tidy up the house. I have no energy, huge dark circles under my eyes, I feel I am barely functioning.
Dad is around but we do not live together. My mum helps as much as she can but my lo is so full on in the day even she struggles to cope.