Sleep training and retraining

[kitty1993]

So 2 weeks ago we ventured into sleep training our 8mo. We were getting multiple wake ups followed by me co sleeping with her from midnight onwards. Sleep training (letting her cry for 2 mins and then rubbing her back and reassuring then leaving again for 2 mins) worked really well! By night 3 we had some excellent improvements and everyone was feeling better, especially my 8mo who was suddenly happier during the day. We then had a brief illness and my daughter was really unsettled and so naturally I didn't leave her to cry and we ended up cosleeping. The following night things weren't too bad only 2 wake ups but slowly over the last week we've gone right back to where we started. It also hasn't helped that she has learnt to stand up in the last 4 days and so she will now stand in her cot between me going in to settle her and it seems to make it impossible to get her to calm down whereas previously she would be lying down and she would find it easier to settle with a few back rubs.

My questions is how do we manage the issue of her standing up? Do I lay her back down? We've been trying that and it seems to just make her worse.
Also do I just start all over again with leaving her for 2 mins and then resettle her and repeat? I've tried that this evening and it didn't work but maybe I just need to keep going.

I can't go back to where we were. co sleeping is no longer safe as she is so mobile plus I am in agony from 8 months of co sleeping. She also likes to be latched onto me all night which is destroying my mental health and my relationship with breast feeding. She was also so much happier with a better nights sleep.

I would not put her down everytime as it soon will feel like a game for her and she will stand up again before you leave the room 😂 that was also what was suggested on a sleep training page that I follow. Honestly, we had to retrain a couple of times but still totally worth it for our family. Cosleeping also made all of us miserable and to give you a light at the end of the tunnel she barely makes a peep when it comes to nightsleep since she turned 1, so I guess the habits really solidify once they get older (she’s 19m now)

I've had the same issue re standing. I used to lay him down but that made things worse. Unfortunately the best thing was just to leave him to it. I did spend a couple of times sitting next to his cot, patting the mattress trying to get him to lie down. However I seemed to be drawing more attention to it. He learnt within a couple of nights or so it was better to lie down and go back to sleep

Thank you both for your replies!
I will leave her to it for a bit longer and hopefully the excitement of standing up will start to wear off soon. It's a new skill so she probably just wants to get the most out of it. I found last night where she was more tired she was sat down when I went in so that's progress!
I wouldn't be pushing to go back through the sleep training if it hadn't made everything so much better! She was even feeding and eating solid food better because she was in a better mood.

I'm still breast feeding at night and happy to continue doing this so I'm not expecting her to sleep through, but if it could go back to being just the 2 wake ups I'd probably feel a lot more human!