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9 month old not sleeping at night

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Duvetday19 · 11/05/2023 07:38

I should say first that it's myself who has the problem with this as I don't fall asleep so easily after being up while my DD wakes at 7am in a good mood however, she is tired about 1.5 hours after waking.

For about a month now my DD has been waking up between 2am-5am and I have just started giving her a bottle which it will still take her a good hour of moving around to fall asleep so maybe about two hours awake time in the night. She seems to get so tired shortly after waking that I'm finding it hard with stretching her wake windows.

She's also in bed by 7pm-7.30pm but won't go to sleep until about 8pm. This is all new.

Before she would sleep 7pm-5am, bottle then back to sleep until 7am straight away and the odd occasion of sleeping through until 7am. Sometimes now I have to give her a cuddle to sleep and sometimes she settles herself, she doesn't cry or anything she's just moving around alot. I switched from taking her out at 2am for a bottle to now giving it to her in her cot and not saying a word but she just seems to have alot of energy.

I've also tried ignoring her by giving her soother but she would be awake for hours if I left her! Her bedtime routine is pretty average with a bath, stories and bottle, calm and dark room with a nightlight. Also, she has reverted from two daytime naps back to three so 9am 1.5 hours, 1pm 1.5 hours and about 4.15pm 30 mins and have tried to push her bedtime to 7.30pm but she's falling asleep with us, until we put her down!

I'm like a zombie and going back to work in three weeks feel like I've tried everything now to get her to sleep at night. No problems with getting up for a feed if she settled quickly after but its not the case. Will welcome any tips 😊

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Dermadirj · 11/05/2023 08:01

Don't feed the baby a bottle before a 6:30am for a week, then push that to 7am, even if she wakes up earlier. Just play with her or let her play on her floor mat with toys.

If she wakes in the middle of the night like 2am, then wait 10mins before you go in. She might have a cry but then fall asleep. Whatever you do don't feed her a bottle, just give her more food or milk during the day.

Reduce nap 1 to 30-40mins, then let her sleep up to 2-2.5 hours for nap 2. And at some point soon she'll drop nap 3.

How's she eating during the day? 3 meals?

Duvetday19 · 11/05/2023 08:17

Okay I will give this a go! Yes, three meals a day, and about 25-30 oz - this is including her night fees at the moment so I can't really see how she would be hungry at that time when she wasn't before this! I reckon I'm in for a couple more sleepless nights while I try this!!

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Dermadirj · 11/05/2023 09:07

Hope it helps!

Also, once she wakes up in the morning whatever time that is - let's say 5:30am onwards, then aim to give her a solid awake period of around 2.5hours until her next nap.

You got this x

Duvetday19 · 11/05/2023 20:18

The day time naps went to plan, 40 minute morning nap, however it was just under two hours after she woke for the day and then we had a three hour wake window - not easy and it was lunch, bottle and nap for 2.5 hours exactly! However, she was so fussy and tired by 5.30pm I had to push back her bed time to 6.30pm so I will do this if needed for a few nights and go for the 7pm routine again.

Just when you think you have a routine, she changes things up! Thank you for the advice.

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