20 month old desperate for some sleep

[Marshmallow87]

We are all absolutely miserable. I stopped BF recently to try make things better as night weaning helped my first sons sleep enormously. Stopping BF did help for a week or so and now it’s worse than ever (stoppped BF in feb). I’m totally desperate for any advice as I’m exhausted, nothing is working and I don’t feel proud but last night I totally lost my temper at 3am and just screamed for him to go to sleep.

he’s in a single bed so I can get in with him which has stopped working anyway he just mucks about now.

he’s still needing a nap which we have capped at 1 hour max and awake before 2pm. I’ve tried the retreating chair etc rapid return. Walking him back to his bed and saying nothing (basically didn’t work). I’m exhausted, I’m depressed I just want some sleep. He’s also exhausted which is making his tantrums worse than ever. I’ve made sure he’s not hungry he’s had calpol for any possible teeth. We did replace his BF milk with cows milk which he has in sippy cup but his bed and he still uses a dummy. I can’t get hun attached to a teddy at all he just pushes it away.

HELP

I can understand you being tired, that sounds exhausting.

I know it probably sounds like a step backwards but have you tried putting him in bed with you?

My 9 month old son is still not sleeping through the night. It's like clock work, same times every night he gets up for a bottle around 2-3 am and 5-6 am. He goes right back to sleep if I give him a bottle. Not sure what to do. I've tried giving him water instead but that just really pissed him off. I've tried the crying it out but I just can't do it. Any suggestions?

@Scco14 that's pretty normal for 9 months and he probably needs the calories. Have you tried getting more calories in during the day?

My daughter didnt drop her night bottle till just before she turned 1. I did however reduce the amount i gave her by reducing it by an ounce every 1-2days around 11-12months. When his solid food intake drop he will naturally drop it aswel