Wtf are we doing wrong. !?

[Letsbekindplease]

Hi.

I’ll try keep this brief

DD is 10 months. Noticed last week she was cutting down her naps. Where she would do 1/2 hours a nap she did 20 mins.
always waking between 4am-5 am. Bed between half 6/7pm.

im absolutely exhausted to say the least. 4am is just something else!

the last two days I’ve managed to get her into a better routine. Woke at 6 yesterday. Napped her at 12.30. Woke at 2.30. Bed at 7.30. She then woke at 5am again. Whyyyyyy!?! I am absolutely shattered. I know this can be a normal time for babies but she’s woke up shattered. I don’t know when to nap her today either. any help or advice?

as I’ve typed this ages fallen asleep on me lol

The answer is probably nothing. Babies are gonna baby! Does she sleep from bedtime until 4am without waking, or is that just her morning time in addition to other wakes in the night? If she's going from bedtime to 4am then I'm sorry to tell you that this is already better than average, and it would be a miracle if it was any better!

As for naps, I've always just let mine nap when he's tired. Life is too short to fight with a baby about naps. I give it 15 minutes when he looks tired and if he doesn't go to sleep then we try again in an hour or so. This way I don't have to get frustrated that it's taking me an hour to get him down if I just start the attempt an hour later 😉

If she is waking up happy it’s called split night sleep. To fix it she needs more sleep pressure. You create sleep pressure with wake windows. The wider a wake windows the more sleep pressure you apply. This can be created by shortening a nap, waking her up earlier or putting her down later. I’m this case I highly recommend the huckleberry app. It’s a fantastic tool for problem solving wake windows.

If she is waking up crying or upset it could be something else such as hunger or nightmares.

Thanks for your replies
I’ll look into that app.

yes. She’s pretty much asleep from when she’s out down to 4am which j know is amazing, but it’s so damn early and it mucks up any sort of routine. Maybe I’m being too strict with a routine so early.

she does wake for a dummy but that’s it really. I suppose you’re right. Isn’t too bad when you hear it.

she actually woke at 4 then went back down this morning. Something she never usually does