Am I the only one whose children just won't sleep??!!

[ArchMum345]

Please just help me out here! Mum of a 4yo and 7m old. DC1 was a horrid sleeper. Started sleeping through the night only after 3yo. Million wakings first year and many many even after that. Naps needed to be bridged , wouldn't sleep in prams / car seats nowhere. I was hoping after hearing people say when one is bad DC2 is generally better. DC2 now 7 months is the same! Super short naps. Definitely wakes up 20-25 mins in naps sometimes goes back to sleep sometimes doesn't. Minimum 6-10 wake-up's at night. Went down at 7.30pm and I am in the room for the 3rd time already BFing back to sleep. DC2 is EBF, DC1 had formula from 6 months on. Didn't do anything if that helps! What am I doing wrong? People have DC at least napping if not sleeping great at night or other way round. Have tried white noises, temperatures, pitch dark rooms, humidifiers, air filters all possible things with DC1 and most with DC2. I cosleep with DC2. Help me please! And I know it gets better but I can't get over why me??! I am not expecting DC2 to sleep through or anything like that but just a bit reasonable. And yes that might be teething but this is happening since they were 4 month old. All teething gels and granules are on regularly. Sorry if the post is not best composed but you get the gist! Thank you all! Just hoping someone has that miracle solution who might have been in the same situation if that's even possible!

Are you putting your baby down awake or asleep?

Would you try sleep training?

I wouldn't try sleep training, no. I tried once with DC1 and it's definitely not something for us.

I have tried putting down awake but they just cry and get tired.

You aren't doing anything wrong. My kids are exactly the same. Mine are 4yo and 2.5yo. Afrer a harrowing first few years the 4yo sleeps though more than half the time now but the 2.5yo has never managed it. He stopped napping at about 15 months but would always only do half an hour or so. Nights were horrendous for a long time but it's a lot better now, he's only up a couple of times now and I let him come in with me (annoying but he wakes up less often than if I resettle him in his bed).

The hardest thing for me was that I really believed that if you had one terrible sleeper, the next one would be better. Everyone said it to me and I bought in to it. It was so tough to adjust to this idea that this one was just as bad, if not worse. Hang in there, it's bloody tough!

It really is, isn't it??! And it seems like you are the only one! When people and internet are like 'oh 7 month olds still might wake up1-3 times and though tough it might get better' or something! I am like 'Is that tough??!' Ha!

Honestly i heard talking with the baby in womb helps and all, and the only thing I ever told DC2 was please be a good sleeper😂

Well clearly no one listened!

@ArchMum345 haha I know. I suppose it's all relative but I do remember listening to people I saying they were miserable as their 8/9/10 mo was still waking once a night, would've been my dream 🤣.

On the positive side I can cope with a lot now. Ds had a cough last week and one night I only got 4 hours broken sleep and it was just no issue at all as I lived like that for months on end when he was smaller.

I sound like I'm pretty chill about it now but honestly there were some dark days and you'll be in the thick of that right now so sending caffinated thoughts your way.

Definitely not doing anything wrong. DD was a nightmare sleeper, I got lucky that she started sleeping through at 12 months but she's still in our room (19 months) as she just won't sleep otherwise.
DS is 3 months and is slightly better than DD was at this age but co-sleeping as he won't sleep in his next to me bed.

I remember around 7/8 months DD's sleep was terrible, she had awful separation anxiety and was waking constantly even though we co-slept.

Hopefully DC2 will get better soon as they do all just get there in their own time, as annoying and exhausting as it is

My 8 YO no issues, slept through from 17 weeks.

My 4 YO however still does not sleep through, multiple wakings every single night.

I am a shrivelled husk of a human being. It is exhausting.

He starts school in September so DH hope that this will be the turning point of him sleeping through. We are clinging onto this hope with every fibre of our being.

I have no answers, just exhausted and broken solidarity!

Sorry everyone. Never replied on anything here. Been crazy few weeks and sleeps just getting worse. It's really draining me.

Sorry posted too soon.
@moleeye lots of strength your way. It does get better. My 4yo still wakes up a bit but she cosleeps with her dad anyways so probably better.
@kernowpicklepie it is probably this 7-9 month regression/ anxiety / teething / all of the above but it's getting worse everyday. Neither naps or nights are predictable. I know this will pass but it's hard. Thank you for the handhold.
@Cakeandslippers know what you mean. Last night was that for her. DC1 crying every hour over a bruise that hurt and DC2 literally refusing to be put down all night!
Again it's just hard when everyone around really don't seem to struggle so much