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2 to 1 nap transition

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AvocadoSoup · 31/03/2023 12:19

I am fairly certain my son is ready to drop from 2 naps to 1 nap, he's showing signs; split nights (up for hours at time, and on my first full week back at work too, yay!), resisting naps, early waking, night wakings etc.
He's very almost 14 months old.

From looking at the various ways to handle this transition, I feel the gradual approach will be the one that suits him best (we've tried him a few times on one nap and he can only ever cope with it for a day or two at a time before it badly affects night sleep due to overtiredness). Huckleberry suggest moving the first nap later by 15 minutes every few days and offering a cat nap in the afternoon to get them to bedtime, or an early bedtime if that's refused. Their example schedule looks like this:

Wake at 630
Nap 1 at 1030-1130
Nap 2 at 330-4
Bedtime at 715, asleep by 8pm

My question is, when moving the nap later 15 mins each time, do you still wake them at 1130, or do you let them keep sleeping hoping they won't need the afternoon cat nap? And if you do still wake them, do you wake them at 1130 still, or 15 mins later at 1145?
This will then have a knock on effect with the cat nap - so what happens there?!

It's all so bloody complicated, a horrid mix of my favourites, maths and science... NOT how my brain operates! And certainly not on no sleep and when my brain is full of all the fun that comes with just having returned to work after over a year off!

Does anyone have any thoughts on the above, or failing that, some simple advice on how to handle this transition? I don't think I can cope with any more split nights!

-We can't do cold turkey and just press on with one nap only, he's not ready.
-Taking him for a drive used to work for the more difficult second nap, but that's now not an option for 3 days out of 5 due to our childcare arrangements and also doesn't work as well as it once did anyway.
-There isn't enough time in the day for me to stretch his wake windows any further without getting into obscenely late bedtime territory.

I'm thinking we keep pushing the first nap later, every few days, and offer the cat nap where possible but just do an early bedtime on the days where it isn't, which I suspect will be most of the time.
And don't wake him, just let him sleep as long as poss?
Does this sound like a good plan?! Or will earlier bedtimes mean horrible early starts?! He wakes at about 7am most mornings now which I appreciate a lot!

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Nearlyamumoftwo · 02/04/2023 22:38

Hi there, with respect I don’t think much of huckleberry’s idea sorry! Looking at that schedule, your son will need to be awake from 11:30ish to 8:00ish with only a 30 min nap inbetween which will be terrible for both of you. It also means it will be harder for him to naturally drop it and also hard for you to make him
stop (as you will need to push the one nap until 12:30ish if you want to do the “1 nap after lunch” type thing)

my son went from 2-1 around 13-14 months with nurseries help (and their suggestion on how to do it) and it worked a dream:

1st nap approx 10-10:30ish (if he had woken super early maybe 9:30-10). Strictly 30 mins MAX which would involve waking him up (not always fun) OR I’d engineer it with a car journey or putting him in the buggy - much easier for them to wake up this way.

2nd nap approx 1:30 for 90mins or so

With time, I found he was going down later and later for the the 1st nap (or not at all) and one day I just didn’t attempt it and it was fine (ish!) then because they haven’t slept, you’ll find they need that 2nd nap earlier than 1:30 which is how we started the routine of putting him down after lunch: 12:30ish (in the beginning this was hard - super tired and sometimes getting through lunch was a pain, but the idea is they’ve skipped their morning nap, so afternoon nap becomes earlier)

the problem with huckleberry is that they’re suggesting the longer nap first (which is probably what the baby naturally wants to do) but dropping that will be hard. Engineer a short nap in the morning which is easier to drop.

when he started skipping his 1st nap and just having one after lunch he was still an utter zombie. I put him
to bed at 5:15 once and he woke af 7am - probably one of the best evenings I’d had in years!

GinnyBee · 02/04/2023 22:54

We just did what the baby wanted. He started having the odd one nap day at 8 months old with most days still being two naps. Then the one nap days just got more frequent and by 10 months he was fully on one nap. Very low drama and no need to overthink it! Just follow baby’s lead, nap him when he’s tired and take each day as it comes, it can be a long transition.

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