I'm so tired

[Monstermoomin]

My nearly 7mo has been a bad sleeper since day 1, as in, naps in the sling and being held to sleep.

Put into her own room about 2-3 weeks ago, but I kept giving up and bringing her back through until about a week ago when I took down the next to me crib so I wouldn't be tempted.

We've been having some progress, waking 9 times and hours of resettling reducing down to like 5-6 times and not taking as many hours to resettle!

Then last night happened. My eldest has been ill and now the rest of us including baby are ill. She's got a chesty cough which took about 2-3 months to clear last time. Meaning she wakes herself up coughing.

I think I got less than three hours of broken sleep last night and I feel like utter shit. I've spent the last 30 minutes of trying to get her back down in tears because I know this is going to be her sleep now until she's better.

Not particularly looking for advice, just a bit of a hand hold really because I'm going to loose my mind.

Oh also to add when I've managed to actually put her down I've then not been able to fall asleep because I've just been waiting for her to wake, so that's fun too.

You sound exhausted.
Hopefully you are over the worst of it and hopefully your child will not take three months to recover this time.
Enjoy the rest and solitude while you can.

You need to sleep train

Sleep train wouldn't work for this though would it? You need to re do it for every tooth and every illness, a fair few families from our NCT group did it, seemed like a lot of stress for v short term results

Massive sympathies I used to do this too!! Me and dh used to split it and either do half the night each or a night off. Know I could sleep and it wasn't my responsibility to wake up made a big difference, fresh air and coffee help during the day

No advise really as i’m going through the same, last night was so bad my partner has had to ring in sick today because i just can’t function or look after him.
Im considering sleep training now because i feel like there is nothing else i can do!
So just sending a massive hug and that your not alone in this!

Would you believe that things have actually got worse 🫠

I ended up trying her co sleeping on our sofa bed (it's a proper one, large area and not squishy mattress or anything), and she will not be layed down next to me, I tried cradling her and I can't tell you how much fucking rocking, singing etc I have done and as soon as she's asleep and I try to lie down with her the screaming starts again.

I did this out of desperation because in the cot she was either waking before I put her down or as soon as she was.

This is brutal.

I just want to sleep and instead I've got a baby screaming in my face.

Is it worth getting up for a while?
Maybe that's counter intuitive, but a little sit up with a book or a soft toy might break up the crying (and give you some quiet).

Looking back, when my LO went through bad teething/illness I wish I had asked my friend around for me to sleep for an hour. It seemed so silly to ask at the time but in hindsight I was silly not to.

I do believe you..we are the same!! It’s a joke isn’t it, i don’t feel like ours is a sleep regression because i think we have had that. This is just he doesn’t want to stay asleep for us or he just wants attention and to be up.
It feels impossible now! We did one longer stretch of sleep last night which was from as soon as he was put down (was only 2.5hour but good for us right now) And all we did different was put him down awake at bedtime instead of asleep. And let him fall asleep on his own, he did it in 4 mins! He just will not do it anytime he wakes after this :(
I haven’t tried co sleeping yet, we did it when he was lots younger to get some sleep and i didn’t like it! But i’m with you, at a loss as to what to do next, i’m dreading tonight already :(

@AmberM2022 that's good that he managed to fall asleep on his own! If I put mine in her cot awake, drowsy, asleep doesn't matter she screams. She hates it.

Has it been any better the past few weeks?