Desperately needing advice

[boymummy19]

Hello!
I have a 7 month old who I am really struggling to get into his own room!
I used the Ferber method and it worked like a charm.
Not so much for baby number 2! He cries to the point of making himself sick and it doesn't take very long at all.
Does anybody have any tried and tested techniques for the more sensitive babies??

We are currently co sleeping but I am exhausted!

We have a solid evening/bedtime routine.

Please help this tired mama!
😊

Not a quick fix by any means. But when we moved ds into his own I would sleep in there from the first wake up. I was on a single bed he in his cot. Then we put the cot mattress on the floor and he fell asleep there and I could roll away. It was a game changer not having to transfer him.

I've never been a cosleeper, but perhaps you could get a double mattress for his room and your first step would be both of you cosleeping but in his room?

I stopped sleeping in his room after nightweaning. That really made the difference. But I didn't do that until 15 months, I perhaps could have done it at 12 months but there was too much other stuff going on at the time. I wouldn't have felt comfortable doing it earlier than that. Good luck!

How does your baby go to sleep initially? As in are they fed to sleep, rocked, put down awake etc?

Please tell me how you nightweaned!

OP, there's a gradual retreat technique or pick up put down technique.

@MrsB902
He is bf to sleep. He will go down on his sleepyhead downstairs until I go up then he has a feed in bed and then just has boob on tap all night.
He will go down in his cot asleep but as soon as he wakes he screams- sometimes this is after 10 mins sometimes an hour.

I have just been reading about pick up put down- I imagine I'll be in for the long haul!

I'd be more than happy to feed to sleep and put him down then but it leaves me with little freedom. It would be ideal if my dh/mum/sister etc could also put him down

I followed Jay Gordon's approach. He recommends it only for over 12 months though. I agree with him I think. 6 months old still barely eat solids and are very little.

I think it sounds like feeding to sleep is an issue for you. You could try rocking instead? Anyone can do that. Then you could gradually reduce the rocking until you are cuddling him lying down on the bed instead? It did make a difference to ds's sleep when he started falling asleep on his bed as opposed to being transferred asleep. Aside from that though the method of getting him to sleep has made zero difference to the rest of the night. He largely sleeps through now but he is 2

@sunflowerandivy sorry got confused at who asked me. How old is your lo? My body clock is permanently set to waking at 5 as I kept a post 5am feed until recently. Ds is fast asleep and I'm awake.

When ds1 was about 8 months we did the gradual retreat (to teach him to go to sleep alone) and the gradual withdrawal (to gently and slowly night wean).

We found the methods in the 'teach your child to sleep' book

To get him to sleep alone we initially did anything (except feed him) to get him to sleep - rock, sing, walk round his bedroom etc. after 3 nights we reduced the support and kept doing that until we were slowly not in his room.

Alongside that I would bf him when he woke in the night but would set a minimum time. Initially it was 1 hour 45 minutes as that was how long he was sleeping for! I then increased it by 15 minutes every 3 nights

It did involve crying and took a while but we saw improvement every week and it was 100% better than what we were dealing with!

My baby is 8 months and we didn't do cry it out as I couldn't face it however we did start to use other methods of getting her to sleep. We started with daytime naps so instead of feeding to sleep I would stand and rock her, then i switched to sitting down and rocking, then just patting and shushing. We then tackled night times. She will now go down with a shush and a Pat and if she wakes in the night is resettled with the same. I only have to pick her up if she's hungry and needs feeding. She isn't in her own room either we have her cot as a sidecar to our bed and she sleeps much better that way

I think I'm going to continue with the controlled crying but extend the time more gradually.
See how that goes. Then if he continues to make himself sick (which so far has only been in the longer stretches) I will try rocking to sleep and putting him down then.
He is sooo clingy at the min and I can't imagine him going to sleep with dh rocking him but we'll give it a go!!
Thanks for the comments! It's a minefield and seems people adapt techniques more often than not!