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My DS is 6

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Springawakenings · 05/03/2023 00:10

He has never slept well from birth. He had medical issues such as reflux and allergy issues. So would be up every hour sometimes. This led to alot of co sleeping to try and get any sleep possible. When he was 4 I tried very hard to get him in his own bed which I managed to do. However I'm a single parent and his Dad will not even try to stop co sleeping with him.
At my house every night there is something during the night. He wakes up because of his night light or he says he is scared. I have the hallway light on and play rain music for him which he likes. I'm literally at my wits end.

His sleep is so inconsistent between and his dad. I've tried reasoning with his dad and to get him to help but he was abusive to me when we were together and even now so any communication is pointless as I get verbal abuse.

I've spoken to my sons school, they were useless. My DS did a wishes and feelings and wrote he's tired in the mornings.

As to not drip feed, I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD and used to be to be similar with sleep in that I found it hard to switch my brain off. I just do not know what to do. Any advice or tips??

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NuffSaidSam · 05/03/2023 00:27

Can you just go back to co-sleeping if that works? Maybe try getting him a roll away bed and let him come in and sleep on your floor when he wakes.

HappyHolidays22 · 05/03/2023 00:54

Ah sorry to hear this OP. Agree with the going back to co sleeping if it works? Everything is just a phase with kids and eventually he will settle down and sleep. Can totally appreciate you not wanting to go ‘backwards’ though having worked hard to get him in his own bed but if his dad wont be consistent, maybe the main thing is you both getting a good nights sleep?

Springawakenings · 05/03/2023 07:04

Thing is I don't sleep well when he's in my bed. As he's almost 7 now he's getting bigger and takes up room and I'm on the edge of the bed sometimes.

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HappyHolidays22 · 05/03/2023 09:51

:( perhaps a roll away mattress as @NuffSaidSam suggested? Maybe he can pick his cushion or duvet set he wants on there? Also have you tried this ever tent things? I’ve not got one but always thought that if we start to have trouble with DD in her own bed as she gets a bit older, I’d be willing to see if one of those makes it seem more interesting for her to be in her own space?

www.amazon.co.uk/Nifogo-Tents,Game-Kids,Childrens-Tents,Childrens-Tents,Boys/dp/B0819SMH8N/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=2XDWG9BQK04U1&keywords=bed+tent+for+boys&qid=1678009851&sprefix=bes+tent+for+boys%2Caps%2C87&sr=8-3

HappyHolidays22 · 05/03/2023 09:51

These bed tent things*

Springawakenings · 05/03/2023 19:46

HappyHolidays22 · 05/03/2023 09:51

:( perhaps a roll away mattress as @NuffSaidSam suggested? Maybe he can pick his cushion or duvet set he wants on there? Also have you tried this ever tent things? I’ve not got one but always thought that if we start to have trouble with DD in her own bed as she gets a bit older, I’d be willing to see if one of those makes it seem more interesting for her to be in her own space?

www.amazon.co.uk/Nifogo-Tents,Game-Kids,Childrens-Tents,Childrens-Tents,Boys/dp/B0819SMH8N/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=2XDWG9BQK04U1&keywords=bed+tent+for+boys&qid=1678009851&sprefix=bes+tent+for+boys%2Caps%2C87&sr=8-3

Thanks that tent thing looks pretty good. I'm willing to give any thing a go.

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