I need help with sleep

[poppy8989]

So other than paying £250 plus on a sleep coach
Does any one at all have any idea how on earth I can get a baby to sleep or nap! He doesn't night or day.

@LapinR0se oh I see sorry! Okay Wonderful thank you so much for all your advice!
I think he has also got so use to me being the only one he will settle with that it's just habit now and like you say probably confused as we've tried so much x

It all comes down to teaching them to fall asleep alone and self soothe. There are various approaches, you have to choose the method that feels right for your family.

And secondly, you need to be consistent.

Some people get lucky and get babies who just sleep from the start, or suddenly start sleeping well later, with no effort.
Those babies who can sleep anywhere, in anything etc. Those parents don't have to sacrifice much.
But if you don't get one of those, you have to put the effort in and make some sacrifices. It will pay off.

@chronictonic thank you! I was lucky the first time with a son who slept so well all the time but this time it's been very different!

At 7 months I think you have to be realistic. They may be too young to respond to sleep training and some are bad sleepers.

@WhatNoRaisins I understand how hard it is for them at such a young age but myself not sleeping too has had a knock on effect. I'm exhausted, run down, sleep deprived, and not functioning as the mum I should. Some babies don't like sleep but they do need it as do I.

I know you do but at 7 months this baby has several sleep regressions ahead of them and teething. No harm in looking at strategies to help with sleep but it doesn't have any guarantees.

I definitely have took it into consideration there will be regressions and teething ect but he hasn't slept more than 2 hours solid since he was born so unless he stays awake for 24 hours it can't get much worse

Could their dad take them out for a few hours while you nap?

@WhatNoRaisins he helps when he's home but he works shifts and works away

@poppy8989 I think my daughter might be lactose intolerant as well, she’s so so windy at night and farts constantly. She has a runny nose constantly atm and her skin is very dry especially on her cheeks and always very red. Used to think it was teething but been this way for like 5 months now!

Woken and cried 7 times in 32 minutes.
This can't be normal 🥴

That’s either hunger or discomfort I would say…

I ordered "your sleepless baby" book so now hoping that might help too 😩

I think it's way more of a shock if it's your second baby after a first who was an easy sleeper!

@chronictonic ohh the difference in them is crazy! My eldest would sleep whenever and wherever. Never had to be cuddled or fussed to sleep. Just fed and put down.
My second... miles apart!

Ours slept terribly till we cut out dairy and soya, if dairy made yours windy I'd consider trialling cutting out soya as well before trialling reintroducing dairy. Good luck.

@LapinR0se Iv tried everything you suggested. Iv tired it every single time but nothing is working. Last night he was up 22 times.
He's not hungry. He's got uncomfortable. He's not wet. Not too hot or too hold. He's in his own room. There's absolutely nothing wrong with him at all but he will not stay asleep. In a hour tonight he's woken 8 times and I'm beside myself. I just can't keep doing this.

Hi @poppy8989 sorry to hear it’s so hard.
A baby waking that often is usually one of these things:
Hungry
Cold
Has been put down asleep instead of awake

@LapinR0se he was snug and warm but not hot. He had a lovely dinner and a bottle of expressed milk

And did he go down awake?

Yes he did. And he was awake every single time he woke and I tired to get him back down through the night too

Can you post what happened full day yesterday including food and naps?