Toddlers turned into a terror!

[Feduphelp]

Hello,

My 2 year old has always slept quite well but this last month or so has got progressively worse. She wakes up most nights and will scream the house down demanding to get up or go into our bed.

Her speech is very good so she will just top note repeat the same phrases over and over "Mummy's bed" etc. I spend hours a night up and down the stairs trying to settle her as I dread to think what the neighbours must think... it's always midnight onwards and now when I first out her down.

I'm at my wits end, I just want to cry, scream and run away! She's always been difficult but the saving grace was she slept well. Now it's horrendous days (terrible twos) and nights.

This with our eldest waking at 6am every morning I'm fed up as some nights I may only get 3-4 hours broken sleep.

Husband isn't here at bedtimes and doesn't help much at night as he's a heavy sleeper.

Really not enjoying life at the moment. I just want these years to whizz by if I'm honest.

What tactics have you found work, if any?!

By 2 is she just turned 2, 2.5 or closer to 3?

Does she nap?

More info needed.
drop the nap? Don’t let her in your bed- a hug and back to sleep.

Does she nap.
Could she have worms?
Night terrors?
If none of those then I would first time say it’s bed time and then just silently lay her back down.
Apparently there is a 2 yo sleep regression. Who knew? www.healthline.com/health/childrens-health/2-year-old-sleep-regression#definition

I have the same with my two year old tbh but she’s always been rubbish with sleep. I have cut her nap down to an hour and that seems to help a bit. I can’t see her sleeping through though really until we drop it completely which is impossible at the moment as she just can’t stay awake all day

She's just turned 2 end of last year.

There's nothing wrong with her as she's happy as soon as I comfort her, trying to chat or go to sleep on me etc.

She naps for 1 hour 1pm - 2pm otherwise she's an emotional wreck by bedtime at 7pm.

She's only slept in our bed a handful of times when ill etc. she loved her bed so it's just out of the blue!

I've just been sat in the rocking chair with her but as soon as I put her back down she's screaming the house down shouting "mummy's bed" "I want to get up" ☹️

Hoping it is just a regression. It's hard because I really don't know what to do.

I've tried;

Cuddles
Back strokes
Quietly saying it's bedtime
Keep going in
Leave her to see if she settles
Water
Medicine etc

Honestly out of ideas.

She's nice and toasty so not cold.

I've got an headache. Starting to dread the evenings.

Thank you for the link, it's given me hope.

Our eldest had horrible night terrors, it's not that thankfully. She's just decided sleeps no fun!

She does tell me through the day she's tired too...

Let her sleep in your bed

@AntiHop ye that doesn’t work for mine. She just jumps up and down on my head all night.

Yep, or sings and starts getting out and running around.

Also, not safe with our stairs as we're in the loft conversion with open plan bathroom etc.

Yeah I would as well. She’s only 2 and it sounds like she’s having nightmares. DD always wants to sleep in our bed during developmental leaps or if she’s going through a phase of nightmares. I just let her, sleep is king here and we always move her back into her own bed after a few days.

Can you try one day dropping the nap but having a really calm day at home