My 13m olds sleep is terrible!

[Froel1982]

o start with I'm not after advice yet on how to deal with this, as I don't know what is causing my 13 month old to wake so frequently at night. But rather I'm hoping you will share your experiences with me, I find listening to others helps me stay rational during the sleep deprived fog.

So my LB is 13m, he has CMPA, and he has been plagued by illnesses/viruses and allergic reactions since birth, so night sleep has always been a little problematic. He's a good sleeper in the sense that he loves his bed, and as long as he has his muslin he falls asleep within minutes on his own, he gets angry if you fuss over him to much. He recently just can't seem to stay asleep and is waking every 4/5 times a night. He's always woken once or twice, and we sailed through the 4 and 8 month regression, it's never been this bad. It could be a lot of things going on at once, so any experiences you have would be fab

My lb is the same age and we're going through a rough patch with lower molars and virus at the same time. Also maybe some separation anxiety too so you're not alone! Our problem is he only wakes once but it can take an age to get him back to sleep. When he is better, if no change, going to look at his nap schedule. I think we need to shorten his first nap but I've not really tried yet as he's been unwell.

Hope things change for you soon!

That's interesting @Pantheon we have mega teething, we've had back to back viruses all winter, and he is learning and developing a lot currently, it's a recipe for disaster. My boy doesn't take anytime at all to go back to sleep, but is waking 4/5 times a night, the disruption is a killer, just as waking once for hours is a killer. Big hugs to you, and let's hope we come out the other side very soon x

@Pantheon we were thinking of doing the same re: naps, so shorten his first nap and let him have a longer post lunch nap. At the moment, where he sleeps ages in the morning we have to shoehorn in a catnap to get him through to bedtime, so he's doing 6/7hrs on 30mins of sleep 🥱. But like you with everything going on, it's never been the right time to sort his naps out.

@Froel1982 fingers crossed changing the naps helps us both! So hard being sleep deprived. I think this is a particularly tricky stage when 2 naps can be too much and 1 nap is not enough.

Hello I think I have a sort of similar situation. I have an 11 month old who has been a fine sleeper over the months - with lots of ups and downs. Since Xmas and starting nursery in January she’s been sick, snotty, bunged up most of the time and this is causing frequent wakings. I’m finding that if I leave her for 5 minutes, she does tend to go back to sleep. Any longer or if it seems like a really desperate cry and I will go in and try and resettle. I don’t know if it’s normal for them to wake up crying and just go back to sleep or if there is a problem I should be fixing but I have taken the attitude that if it is a problem I need to address, she won’t be falling asleep by herself in 5 mins and I’ll know about it!
often (and out of tiredness) I might bring her into bed with me but this is hit and miss, sometimes it just means we are all awake! Other times she does nod off again. I thought I’d have it all figured out by this point but I really don’t!

You have my sympathies OP.

My DS was a great sleeper (sleep trained) and went to sleep on his own. And then at 18 months when he was teething and poorly he just lost the ability to do it! And was waking up all night. Very difficult few weeks. Spent a few nights sleeping on the floor in his room so I could settle him back quickly when he woke up.

Once he was better we re-did the sleep training and he went back to sleeping well again thank goodness.

If my DS cries in the night I wait a few mins before going in because usually he’s not really fully awake and will just go back to sleep.