18 month old wont sleep in cot all night?

[louisejane1711]

My 18 month old son has never been a great sleeper but over the last couple months seems to be getting worse?
he falls asleep around 730/8pm in his chair downstairs and will go up fine into his cot for couple hours but then keeps crying looking for somebody, he wont settle in his cot but if we transfer him into our bed he sleeps better but constantly wants to make sure you are near.
To the point if i turn my back to him if he clicks onto it he cries till i turn back towards him, his is putting huge strain on my relationship with the husband but i dont know what to do?
or do i just leave it eventually it should stop?

That sounds really tough @louisejane1711 and could be extreme separation anxiety?

Does he have a comforter, like a teddy? I found this helped a bit.

Have you tried sleeping with his cot sheets so his cot smells the same as the bed too?

This all sounds normal? None of mine slept in their own beds all night at that age. I think you should settle him in his cot at the start of the night and try and resettle him there throughout the night, but if he won’t then bring him into bed with you.
it is Normal and it’s not forever.
not sure why it’s putting a strain on your relationship? It’s perfectly normal for babies/toddlers to be like this

It may be because he is falling asleep downstairs with you present (not sure what the 'chair' is your referring to?) But then if you are transferring him already asleep he is waking up somewhere different in the cot alone in the dark and feels unsettled by that.
You need to get him used to settling in the cot, he may need you to do this gradually, by staying present or close by and returning to comfort him if he is upset.
Maybe put a low light on and give him some books or cuddly toys to look at and he may feel less like he is being 'put to bed' and drift off naturally without realising.
Or maybe if he still has milk feed him in his room on a chair in the dark.
Our little girl likes having a lullaby toy on to help her settle too.

Why my 18 months old don’t sleep? I put him in cot at night and he go sleep he only sleep for 3 hours in cot and then he start crying and won’t settle and then I had to pick him up and put in bed as soon as I put him in bed he go sleep straight away he never used to sleep in bed he always sleep through out the night in cot but now he always wants to sleep with me . Is this normal? Or it will stay like that ? It’s been 2 months may be I tried to settle him down at night but he won’t and I really don’t know what to do