My 9 month old now screams when put down at night

[Linda71]

My 9mo has been sleeping through the night since 8wks old. He gets his bath then bf and 8 out of 10 times used to fall alseep but if not, I could always put him down in his cot awake and he would just play with his teddies for a while and then fall alseep. For the last 3 weeks he hasn't fallen asleep after being fed and screams the place down when put in his cot. I try to leave him but can only last 5 mins because he starts to choke due to screaming so much. When I go to get him he is standing up holding onto his cot railings and I then have to feed him again until he falls asleep. I don't know what to do and he's even started screaming during the day now if he's tired and won't go down for his naps. Any ideas?

ive had the standing screaming thing too recently. i just gently put her down and rub her back (and i use a dummy but thats a different debate!) until she calms down but i know it's not always that easy.

it sounds like a bit of separation anxiety type thing maybe? or maybe just the habit of bfing to sleep. that no cry sleep solution is pretty good i think for breaking the bf to sleep pattern, which i think is definitely more relevant for older babies like yours than littlies. thats all i have to offer really.

i think you'll be able to sort it out fairly easily, if you want to do cc you dont' have to try and leave him for 5 mins, you can start with very tiny gaps like 30 secs, so maybe he won't get to the choking point? i don't know what you think about cc, i didn't really use it but i did stop picking her up and just comforted her in the cot...

My 10mo old is doing the same after months of going down happlily.

I do cc when she goes down at 7, in a ramshackle sort of way. I have to get ds ready for bed straight after, so if she cries after i leave her, I just go in to her every couple of minutes (while he's in the shower, or having his pooh) and say 'there there', etc. I am relentlessly cheery.

I think tbh she has twigged that ds stays up later, hears the bath /story/ cackling going on and feels left out. Her crying is angry rather than despairing, iyswim. But if I let her stay up ds would have no special mummy time, and I hear his reading homework then so we need to concentrate. She generally cries for about 7m.