I don't recall all the night wakings

[EmeraldSpo]

As the title says really. I have a 3YO and a 5MO. Lately the 3YO keeps waking up having nightmares and the 5MO (who is in our room) has had a cold so they're both pretty restless.

Last night I can recall 3YO waking four times - I went to see to her twice and my husband twice. She comes out of her room and shouts at our door so it's not like she's just whimpering and restless in bed.

Thing is, this morning DH tells me that she was up 8 times in total and he did 6 of the wakings. It's always like this - I recall a lower number (and not just ones I get up for) and he tells me he got up three times that much.

I'm just a bit confused as to how I can wake up for some and then not all the rest he says happen? Especially when it happens with 5MO as they're on my side of the bed. DH is in a bad mood this morning as he says he didn't get back to sleep after 2am. I feel like he's mad at me... but can't help but wonder if his own frustration at lack of sleep is making him exaggerate the number of wakings... or am I just a bit useless 😥

It's hard work isn't it? We went through the multiple wakings. It has since gotten better.

Honestly, if our 3yr old wakes up we don't bother getting him back in his bed. We use to do that and took a serious toll on us. We both work FT as well and we were like literal zombies by morning so we just let him in our bed. We still have at least 1 night waking every now and again but I kid you not, it use to be 5/6 a night.

It's possible you may have been in a deep sleep and didn't hear him or he could very well be exaggerating. Lack of sleep can frustrate anyone but I don't see why he should be mad at you. You are both sleep deprived. Hang in there and BIG NO, you are not useless!!

No one knows.

Just try and sleep when you can. Best to operate on a schedule that ensures you both have sufficient sleep. E.g. you sleep from 7pm-1am while he covers wake ups. And then vice versa after 1am.

It's a team effort.

Ooh we have the same in our house. I often don’t believe my husband when he says he’s been up multiple times and I slept through it. I feel your pain.

There's apps that record throughout the night aren't there when triggered by noise? I'd set that up tonight so that you can see if you're sleeping through any wake-ups