4 day old that won't sleep in crop..help!!

[cloboe]

My milk hasn't come in yet and my little boy is rather fussy, I've had 1/2 sleep in 15 hours.
He won't sleep when we put him down at all, falls asleep on us and soon as we move our arms from putting him down he is crying. Any help here

First off congratulations!

Secondly he’s 4 days old. This is so so so normal. The way to survive is to take it in shifts - one of you stays up with baby while the other sleeps.

Have you tried swaddling? Some babies really love it and it does help calm them.

Have a read up on the fourth trimester when you’re not so knackered - it really helps explain why babies don’t like being put down.

He has spent the last 9 months in you. If course he feels comforted being very close - he's tiny!
Get your partner to have him while you catch up on some sleep. This is entirely normal.

Normal, sorry! Sleep in shifts. Abandon anything else but sleeping when it’s your turn, and holding/feeding/nappies when it’s your turn for that. Housework can wait, showers can wait. Live off oven food and toast and takeaway.

When you’ve recovered a bit and caught up on sleep, it’s OK for him to cry a bit while you shower etc. Have you got a stretchy wrap sling? Lifesaver if your baby won’t be put down: sling the baby, both hands free to do things – replenishing your water bottle and getting more chocolate things in the early days; prepping dinner or brushing your teeth or whatever when baby is a bit older.

DS wouldn't fall asleep when put down and would wake and cry. I would feed him to sleep and then wait 20 minutes. At that point he was in a deep enough sleep so that he didn't wake when I put him down. If I'd done it all again (I didn't ) I might have done things differently but that is what I did as a first time mum who didn't want their baby to cry and it seemed to be the only thing that would get him to sleep.
When he was older and could roll over he spent the next few years sleeping on his tummy so suspect that he hated being on his back. He also would only nap in a sling which is like sleeping on your tummy.

Very very normal.
I was in hospital for 5 days after DS was born and thjnk I managed a couple of hours a night at the most. It does get better.

Google the 4th trimester. What you are describing is SO normal for a new baby. Its tough but you can do it.

He just wants to feel secure, it’s survival instinct when you think about how helpless a newborn is. It’s normal. Not that that makes it any less knackering but I think you have to just go with it for now. Take lots of photos, you will look back one day when he is a teenager and yearn for these days.

It’s really hard isn’t it? Hang in there. Get some skin-to-skin with baby - it will comfort them and hopefully help your milk come in. Loads of cuddles. A stretchy sling wrap so you and your partner can have the use of your arms back sometimes. Tag team grabbing a nap where you can. Not long now until your milk comes in and baby will hopefully be a bit more contented.

Very normal I'm afraid. It does settle and it won't be like this forever.

Try to nap while he sleeps on your partner and then swap over.

Feed when he stirs to help your milk come in.

Congratulations. It will get easier.

Definitely normal! None of mine have slept by themselves except when out in the pram. Look up how to safely co-sleep if you're comfortable with doing that. It made all the difference for me with getting some sleep.

What are you putting him down to sleep in? Mine all thoroughly hated cots and Moses baskets or anything with too much cold empty space around them. We ended up swaddling and laying them in a baby chair. In this they’d sleep for hours!

4 days ❤️ super super normal.

This was all due to my milk coming in really late, poor little dude was hungry, after feeding schedule was introduced using bottle feeds.....7 weeks and doing really well combine feeding